Here in the south, we love the word classy. We love to look classy and Mama taught us how to act classy. However, when we say we want a classy relationship, people get confused. What are we looking for when we say classy relationship?
I want a relationship with actual dates. I want to dress up and get taken out on an actual date. Yes, I love Netflix and my fuzzy pants just like the next person, but I can do that any day of the week. Make it special, make it something you can remember. Go out and be social. In a few months or years, you are not gonna remember the random movie he clicked on while you made out and hit a home run. You will remember him picking you up and taking you out on a date and the memories you made and the things you learned about each other.
I want to know someone. I want to know everything I possibly can. I do not want to just know their favorite food and birthday. I want to know your fears, ambitions, doubts, and heartbreaks. I want to be able to talk to someone at two in the morning over something that happened back in middle school or something that bothers them from college. I want to be able to connect with someone other than just physically.
I want someone who can pray with me. Someone who can dress up with me to go to church with me on Sunday morning and attend Sunday lunch with my family without having to worry about what is going to come out of their mouth. I want someone who will come have dinner with my family and bond with my siblings, too. I want a relationship that my younger siblings can look up to. I want them to have a real life example that their generation can still be classy and have a a good relationship.
I want someone who stands by their word. Someone who will keep their promises, who will be sincere in their words, someone who will not try to get with or flirt with someone else. I want someone truthful---someone who will not lie to me. I want someone who will encourage me through all the highs and lows I will have. I want someone who will not run when things start getting rocky but rather tell me to hold on for the ride.
I want someone who will understand that part of my social life may not involve them. Someone who will trust me to go out and have a girls night on the town, but will check up on me before they fall asleep or wait until I get home safe. I want someone who I can trust out and party with the boys and not make a drunk choice he would regret.
I want someone who feels as lucky to be with me as I am with them. I want to be special to someone and know it. I do not want a 50-50 relationship but a 100-100. I work and they work and we understand our parts in the relationship. I want someone who understands I have a past and I can not change it no matter how much I try.
I want classy. I want a good relationship. Quite frankly, I think a lot more people than me want this.