I Love Jesus But I Need Therapy, Too

I Love Jesus But I Need Therapy, Too

The song lyrics "Long as I got King Jesus I don't need nobody else" is not true.


I have been in the church since birth. And I grew up to be your typical church girl that was raised in the Missionary Baptist Black Church. I attended Sunday School, did Bible drills, was a part of the Women's Missionary Union where I learned Bible scriptures by heart, sung in the Youth Choir, participated in the praise dance ministry, and was and is always known as the "baby" of the church. It's safe to say, I was an active member of the body of believers.

Growing up in the church I learned early on that if you rely on your faith, believe in things that are impossible to see, the Lord will provide. And He does. He always pushes through for the ones he loves.

However, it wasn't until I experienced a tragic loss that made me realize that God can send other God-filled people to speak Christ-like truth over my life.

Mental health is rarely discussed within the Black community, let alone the Black Church. Our believers tend to assume that looking like nothing we have been through will draw us closer to Christ. Which in fact is the opposite? Christ calls us to be broken vessels unto Him. Christ wants us to be broken.

The Black Church also believes that we can just pray for our mental illnesses to go away. Just pray depression away. Just pray pain away. Just pray guilt away. Without any action. Again, His word told us to do the exact opposite. To have faith and to pray but to also take action. Without taking heed your words for prayer mean nothing.

Let us not dress up our mental illnesses, scars, and brokenness with suits, ties, high heels, and church hats.

For me, it's hard to believe that God cannot and does not use His people to speak to me.

It's my job in seeking Christ to understand who I need in my corner and to have discernment on who I can rely on.

I think that's what's broken with the church. That's what runs people away. That everything can be prayed for and prayed away without taking biblical or even humane action.

We are too afraid to stand broken.

Remember that Christ is the cake. Therapy is just icing.

So yes, I absolutely adore Christ and I seek His face daily in prayer but that does not exempt me from seeking professional help in the areas I know God gave me the capabilities to act on and do better.

As I continue my spiritual journey, my journey of Christianity in Love, I'm learning a few things about myself and breaking down what the church was for me and what it is for me now.

A daily heart check.

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I’m Christian And I Don’t Call Myself A Feminist But I Do Believe That Men And Women Are Equal, Just As It Should Be

I'll say it louder for the people in the back.


Recently there was an article published called, "I'm A Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals." While we are all subjected to our opinions, I have mine and I want to share it to show that just because you are a Christian, doesn't mean you can't be a feminist of some sort.

I am the type of girl that does not necessarily consider myself a feminist, but I am still all for supporting women. I think that men and women should be equal. I think men and women deserve equal opportunities, equal leadership roles, and equal pay. I do not think that men are necessarily superior to women. We are all human and we should all be treated EQUALLY.

I am a strong Christian and grew up going to church and lived in a Christian church my entire life. I love the Lord with everything I have and believe that everything in the Bible is true, but here is how I perceive the creation of women.

Yes, God created man first and then woman, and he created women out of the rib of a man. He created a woman for a man to have a companion because man could not live alone. In order to reproduce, woman had to be created.

So I'll say it again for the people in the back,

Men and women should be treated as EQUALS.

As a woman in the 21st century, I believe in working for my success and reaching my goals on my own, not because a man handed it to me. I believe that women should have equal opportunities as men.

When it comes to relationships however, I have more of a traditional perspective you could say.

I believe that men should pursue women when it comes to a romantic relationship, and I do believe that men should "wear the pants in a relationship" and be the head of the household. But, with that love in a relationship, there should be mutual respect and you should lift each other up and a man should support their woman in whatever she wants to do and the goals she is trying to reach.

Women should do the same, respect their husbands and support them in everything they do, because a relationship is a partnership.

So call it what you want, feminism or not, but I support women.

Everyone is allowed to have their own opinions, but this is mine, and I think that there are many other women out there who could agree.

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To The Christian Girl Against Feminism, Religion Isn't An Excuse Not To Fight For Equality

Religion is not an excuse to not fight for feminism.


When I first read the article "I'm A Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist..." I thought it had to be a joke. Unfortunately, it was a sad reality.

I am a privileged white female. I came from a middle-class family with a law-enforcement father. I still am smart enough to realize we NEED intersectional, no strings attached, unconditional feminism. Anyone who disagrees is just wrong. In this case, the author is trying to base her outdated sexist beliefs on the Bible, and I am appalled.

At first, I thought it was a joke, I genuinely read the title out loud to my father and even he said it had to be a man pretending to be a woman. As I read the article I realized that sadly this is a girl who has had religion corrupt her life.

Religion can be a beautiful thing, it can change lives and give people hope that they need. I have heard countless stories about how finding a god has made people better, and that is incredible. However, using religion to say women don't deserve the same as men is absolutely absurd.

Part of me wants to scream in her face that she can't be ok with being a victim, another part of me wants to throw my hands up and give up on her and like-minded individuals. However, in a time like ours where women are coming so close to being equals, I can't sit down or act irrationally.

So here are the facts:

1. Women who work fulltime only make 77% of men's salaries on average. African American women only make 64 cents per dollar and Latina women only make 56 cents per dollar. Imagine being just as capable and trained just as well but a guy makes more money than you because he has a penis.

2. One in three women around the globe has experienced sexual violence. ONE IN EVERY THREE. YOU'RE SURROUNDED BY SURVIVORS. If women were considered equals that would not be the case.

3. Only 24% of high-level management positions are held by women. That's worldwide. 195 countries. Let that sink in. This isn't because women aren't smart either, 60% of all United States college degrees are awarded to women.

4. Women are not allowed to vote in many places, like Saudi Arabia or the Vatican. Imagine not having the right to vote! YOU GET NO SAY IN ANYTHING.

You can thank women for your right to work, vote, get an education, practice a religion that you chose, a range of professions, windshield wipers, bras, dishwashers, diapers, need I go on?

Women are strong as hell and your misinterpretation of an outdated book does not dimish all of the amazing things women have accomplished and will continue to accomplish.

To quote one bad bitch, "Power's not given to you. You have to take it." — Beyoncé Knowles Carter.

Now ladies let's get into our feminist formation and fight for our rights!

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