As obvious as it seems, choosing yourself is always the best option. I've been in a committed relationship where I had to decide between "us" or "me." I never wanted to be put in that position in the first place. Whether or not I liked it, I still had to choose to continue my future with the one I love or sacrifice "us" for the goals I've worked for all my life.
I worked really hard to get where I'm at today. I have ambitions, goals and will work above and beyond to reach them. However, life is a journey, things change, and you meet people along the way. Planned or not planned, others are now involved in my life but I still welcome them with open arms. Of course, entering a relationship I don't foresee the downfalls that may occur once in it. I am a person of compromise and I believe every issue can be resolved, but when the issues involved both our hopes and dreams, things didn't seem quite as clear anymore.
The choice was obvious, I prioritized myself. I knew that if I chose "me" rather than "us" I was not going to regret the decision. There are still so many things I wish to do and I would never forgive myself if I didn't see through my own goals. Like all things, choosing myself was easier said than done. I chose myself, my passions and my goals, but that doesn't mean I didn't cry my eyes out and eat ice-cream in my bed watching "The Fault in Our Stars." Sometimes the timing is just off, and you can't get everything you want.
I'm writing this to you, my awesome readers, to remind you that it's ok to prioritize yourself. Whether it's career or happiness, prioritizing yourself should not be seen as selfish. You are not selfish, and if anyone says otherwise, ignore them. There will be voices that tell you you're making the wrong decision, that you need the support, the love, and care from your significant other.
First off, that's not true. You have the support of your friends and family and no, you're not going to be alone forever. Also, I believe that real love is supporting one another especially when it comes to each other's dreams. I understand every couple is different but the relationship is most likely unhealthy if it involves an ultimatum. Just a thought.
At the end of the day, all you have is yourself. Don't let anyone make you feel like you NEED them, you WANT people to be a part of your life; there's a difference. If you're ever stuck at a crossroad where you do have to choose between you and them, remind yourself of how awesome you were before you even met them.