Cheating in the media, cheating in the movies, and cheating in real life is not acceptable. What is the point of cheating? It doesn’t make you a better person, and it definitely doesn’t make you a better partner. So, why do it? Do people get a kick out of deceiving their significant other? Do they like the thrill of having a secret? Kind of like a game they’re playing.
Except, the only thing they are playing with is someone's emotions.
An act of cheating emotionally scars someone, it turns their entire world upside down – what they think they knew about you becomes a blur and a lie. People even get to a point where they doubt themselves, thinking the reason their partner cheated was that there was something wrong with him/her. When in fact it’s the opposite, the problem isn’t with them, the problem is with the person doing the cheating.
They’re unhappy with themselves, with their relationship and are too immature to sit down and have a serious conversation with their partner. They don’t have the ability to say straight out “I don’t want this, I don’t want to be with you anymore, or I’ve found someone else.” As painful as it may sound, it beats the hell out of being cheated on.
The emotional scarring of cheating never really goes away. People don’t realize it but that is something that will always linger around a person's mind, it creates a barrier around a heart, causing them to fear a future relationship. Causing them to fear getting close to someone else. Causing them to fear falling in love again. Causing them to fear trusting another person with their most important and fragile possession – their heart.
Instead of cheating, why not just leave. Be mature enough and call it quits. Say, “okay, this is where the road ends for us.”
I have a theory; those who cheat would rather risk their significant other finding out and getting hurt, than having to break up with them and be on their own. Perhaps even when in the relationship, they felt alone, they didn’t feel the satisfaction that one does when in a successful and happy relationship. Despite all those feelings, they decided to stay with a person that didn’t make them happy, and that is in no way the other individuals’ fault. They don’t exactly have control over what their partner feels.
Cheating is in no way justifiable, but there are always underlying reasons as to what led the other person to cheat. Cheating inevitably ruins relationships, and for a moment, ruins lives.
Take it from me, neither one of the people involved will get over it. It’ll create walls and barriers that will never come down, and trust issues that will take years and years to maybe get over.
The blame is not just on the person who does the cheating, but also the one he/she cheats with. They are both are equally to blame for emotionally scarring and ruining a person for future relationships.
