Every young girl dreams about finding her soulmate and finding that picture perfect romance. We, from a very young age, are shown television shows, movies, and even songs that are about romance. There is such a big pressure on girls to find the right person because you do not want to end up alone but you also do not want to end up with a reputation. Growing up there, we would see all of those romances and we would think that love and relationships are easily black and white. You either love each other or you don't. You are together or you aren't. You didn't really see any of the real life issues such as cheating, lying, and just growing apart.

As we've grown up a lot of us have realized that relationships are not just black and white at all. Actually what is realized is that most of the relationships that you are involved are actually all, full of grey. Are you guys actually dating or dating exclusively, are you guys friends with benefits or just friends who occasionally kiss, are you both talking to other people or just each other. Then there is the weird phase of 'talking". What is "talking" anyway? The older we get, the ore advanced and complicated our love lives become. High school was just the start of weird and complicated relationships. Once we hit college, they got weirder and more complicated.

Since the beginning in college, trying to find a real relationship, it has been very hard and defeating. not all college boys or people in general in college want a serious relationship. They want instead to mess around and just hang out. After the past few years in college and two relationships that didn't work out, deciding to casually date was one of the best ideas I have had. There is such a stigma surrounding casual dating, but what I found out is that none of those are true unless you make them true. You have full power to decide what kind of relationship you want. If you want to just go over and watch movies and hangout then go for it. If you want to just go on actual dates and see what happens then go for it. If you want to just hook up and then move on then go for that to. The whole purpose of dating is finding out what you do and do not like in a guy or significant other. Whatever way is best for you to to that, then do it that way. Forget the stigma or double standards, just do what you need. Casual dating is the best way to do that. If you meet someone at a bar and think they are cute and nice then go for it. If there is a nice, smart guy in your class then ask him out to get coffee. If your friend want to set you up on a blind date or you met a guy on social media, then just go for it. You have complete and utter control of what happens and what you find. Casual dating shouldn't be your biggest fear but your best friend in college. This is your last time to be selfish and to do what you want.