Why wait to have sex? This is an issue that has been taboo for too long. But with the recent women's marches, I think that this is a good topic to address. All of those women were marching because they believe that it is their body is their body, and I feel the same way. We all want to make the decisions about what happens to your body, but why are some people persecuted for their decisions?
I have decided to wait until marriage to give myself to someone. Why wait? Well, this has been a huge issue for me for a long time. Why wait to give my whole self to someone, when it is becoming more socially acceptable to lose your virginity before marriage. I really wouldn't be looked at as different, but because I have decided to wait, people feel that I am stuck up, or that I need to live my life a little. You may call me a prude, but I call it appreciating my body.
Newsflash! I believe what the Bible teaches about waiting for the person that you share your life with. Purity is God's way and that's the best way. The bond that is created between a man and woman once they are married, turns them into one flesh. That covenant that is created through marriage is sacred and special. I believe that having sex with someone before we are married is like a slap in God's face. He created that to be something special for a husband and wife to share. Plus, how can I look at my future husband on our wedding day and say that I have broken the covenant of becoming one flesh with him only.
I once heard it put like this. Look at your heart as a heart made of paper. Every time that you have sex with someone, you rip off a piece of your heart and give it to them. The more partners, the more of your heart that you give away. Then, on your wedding night, when your husband offers you his whole heart, perfect, without a single tear, and all you have is a small shred of what is left of your once perfect heart, you aren't being fair. You aren't being fair to your husband, who gave his whole heart to you, and you aren't being fair to the future wives of the men who you have pieces of your heart to. You will always be attached to your first. There is something emotional that happens when you share that moment with someone else.
Of course, it's easy for me to say this from a female standpoint because that is what I am, but the same goes for men. Just because it might be more acceptable for men to sleep around with loads of women, that doesn't make it okay. It's also easy for me to say all of this because I have never really had a relationship. I've never had a boyfriend. Whether by choice, or lack of compatibility, I have never been in a situation where that feeling is there.
Also, it's just healthy! If you sleep with someone and then find out that that have an STD or something of that nature, not only do you have the possibility of getting that STD, but you could give it to your future spouse as well!
If you're worried that your significant other would break up with you because you won't have sex with them, should you be with that person anyway? They obviously don't respect the choice that you have made, and they don't respect you.
Now, I'm not here to condemn anyone for the choices that they have made. But understand this, while you may have already given a piece of you away to someone else, don't forget that it is never too late to make decisions that not only you will be happy that you made, but your future spouse will be as well. It's never too late to decide that you will wait until marriage.
