As I arrive at a party and peek out the window to try to find the guy that has invited me there at least four times the past week, excitement fills me, knowing that I have been talking to him now for months, and the time that we agreed to finally make plans has arrived. I get out of the cab and scope the party scene only to be greeted by a Snapchat of him with another girl. Now look, I am a very easygoing person and it doesn’t bother me you’re with someone else, even though you did lead me on for months. I understand that you don’t owe me anything and frankly I don’t really care, but the fact is you went out of your way to invite me, that I kind of expected to at least see you even for a little bit that night instead of you swerving and ignoring me the second you noticed I had followed through on my promise.
When people argue that chivalry is dead, I feel the need to correct them. General respect for women is dead. Nowadays guys think that they are the world’s gift and can treat others with zero to no respect. To them, it is okay to yell at girls from their cars, smack a random girl's ass off the street, and objectify them for sex. It is not okay.
This is for the boy that asked me for a handy on the first date after not even talking to me the entire time. You didn’t care about me, all I am good for is a handjob in your eyes and nothing more.
Shout out to the boy that led me on to add me to another list of booty calls. You invited me out to your frat’s formal and were the sweetest person I’ve encountered, only to find out that you are a guy with multiple side girls and I was just another number on your list.
Or how about that guy that continually asked me to be his “fuck buddy” the night we first met, and when I said no, he would insult me. He would call me names and tell me how annoying I was and then ask me again. And again... And again...
The funniest by far though is the guy that literally unbuttoned my pants on the dance floor of a house party. Then when I smacked him and walked away, he kept trying to get with me as well as my friends. My friends and I hid in the bathroom plotting on how to get away from him since he was so clingy.
Looking back I can laugh at most of these. But in reality, something needs to be done since people need to have respect for their peers. Many of my conversations with my close friends revolve around how badly we are treated by guys. I could sit and talk for hours of all the guys who have screwed me over, not to mention all the ones that did my friends dirty too. It seems as many as half of the guys that my friends and I have encountered has turned out disrespecting us in one way or another. I just wish that people had more appreciation for one another and actually saw that we are people too.
I don’t think I am asking for much, I’m not asking for you to date me or settle down, but a sliver of respect would be nice. I am way more than just a booty they can slap, or emotions you can crush. I am stronger than that. You don't have the ability to make me feel lesser of myself or lower my standards. One day hopefully people will grow up and realize that the way they are treating us is uncalled for and absolutely terrible. I do believe nice and respectful guys exist out there, and to those guys, I just have to say that you are really great. But for now, I guess we just have to keep weed whacking and trying to find quality people in a sea of disrespect.
