The worst kind of pain isn’t physical pain, it’s not when you break a bone, scrap your knee or even fall down. No, the worst kind of pain is emotional. You see, emotional pain is different, only the person who is hurting can fix themselves. It’s not like a broken bone where a doctor puts a cast on your arm and can magically heal you. It’s not as simple as mom making you some chicken noodle soup for your cold and you feel better. Emotional pain is only truly felt by whoever is broken. Nothing compares to the emotional pain of having a broken heart. That is pain and we all know what it feels like. It feels like your sick, you can’t focus, you can’t eat, you can’t sleep, and there’s no other way to say it but breakups just suck.
It sucks because you feel like the person you love has died. The memory of them is always there, but they aren’t standing next to you. You can't ask them how they are feeling, how their days were, or what they are thinking about. You aren't a part of their life anymore and they aren't a part of yours. They will always be your first kiss, they will always be your first love, and they will always always have that piece of your heart you will never get back. They are still alive and breathing but you can’t be with them. You can’t give them a hug and you can’t be friends with them either because all those memories come flooding back. You can’t think about them without tears starting to swell in your eyes and you don’t think you will ever get over this.
You don't know whether or not you should delete the pictures of them off of your phone or keep them. If you delete them it's like they never existed but keeping the pictures is just another reminder that they aren't with you anymore. Do you try and talk to them or just let them be? Do you try and stalk their social media or just try to move on? Do you ask if they are doing OK, even though you already know the answer? You either get rid of everything they gave you or keep everything. Do you want to remember them or do you want to try and forget them? That is often what is asked after a breakup. Each person comes into your life for a reason. You shouldn't try to forget anyone or wish that they never entered your life because everyone you meet teaches you something or helps open your eyes to the world around you. Wishing you hadn't met someone is like asking them to not exist.
Breakups suck because it marks the end and we all know that endings are the worst part. Whether it’s the end of your favorite song, the end of a good book, or the end of a relationship. No one wants their favorite song to end, no one wants to be done reading a good book, and no one wants a relationship to end, but they all do. It’s the end of having someone pick on you or someone to hold your hand when your feeling sad. It’s the end of having a date night and eating ice cream in the Dairy Queen parking lot talking about anything and everything. It’s the end of those quick kisses at the stop lights and singing songs at the top of your lungs in the car. It's the end of having someone to love and someone to love you.
So, breakups suck. There’s no way around it. You won’t forget the person that you fell completely head over heels for and there is no way you would want to. The many days, weeks, or months you’ve spent together will always be something that you remember because they meant the world to you and always will. You learned so much from them and you can never forget how they made you feel. They made you feel loved, beautiful, wanted, and most importantly, safe.They will always have a piece of your heart and you will always have a piece of theirs.
Eventually, this sadness and heartbreak will be over and you'll look back at those memories with a smile instead of tears. The sun will still come up and the stars will continue to shine. You'll meet someone else that helps fix what has been broken. You'll move on with your life, you have to, there's no use living in the past. They will move on with their lives, they will meet someone else that picks up the pieces, and they will heal. We all want something to last, not just be a few great moments, and that is why breakups suck.
