Have you ever thought about changing your hair style or color? Now let me ask you this, have you ever thought about doing it after a breakup? Whether your answer is yes or no, I wanted to share how changing my hair after a breakup really made me feel about my myself and my outlook on the life ahead of me. Maybe, just maybe, you will find that you may want to do this too, just for fun or if you are moving forward without someone.
When my three year relationship ended, yes I know three years, I was heartbroken and that's just the truth, there isn't a way around it. The thought of spending so much time with someone, both of your families, and having a solid group of friends together, all was now just memories when it came to an end. At this time I was eighteen when the person I thought I was going to be with for a long time was just a ghost now. I kept thinking about the fact that I was so young when we started dating, I was fifteen about to turn sixteen, him being a senior, me a sophomore, and then I added in the two years of long distance when he left for college. What in the world did I just go through and experience? I can't even imagine how people feel when more than a three year relationship ended, I'm sure it is just awful.
After some time of getting myself together, which trust me, everyone will need that time when you go through it, you start to want to take charge of who you are, both your mind, body, and even your look. I thought sense I am working on myself and changing things up, why don't I just add my hair into the mix? I was so nervous, I never touched my hair before that moment, other than the regular hair cut. I knew that I wanted to do this, I really did, so I had to, for myself, not anyone else. When it was all said and done, I loved it, and I still do, if you were wondering! I do not think I have done anything so exciting to change things but also questionable at the same time. I was officially a blonde, bye bye all brunette! Now, I know the real question is, how did changing your hair color, change how you felt?
The real answer: It didn't. It did not change the fact that I was upset or the fact that I was heartbroken. What it did change was how I felt about myself, and for that, it was one of the best things I have done, the feeling is priceless. I didn't see myself the way I used to, I saw myself as the new and improved version of me, still the same person with the same values and love of people, but with a new a look. I still feel confident and am in love with my hair, I felt like I was saying goodbye to the young Bella who spent most of her time dedicated to her boyfriend and the decisions I made. Now, I was saying hello to the still young and wild girl who took control of her life and identity. I was free, as weird as that may sound.
If you are thinking about changing your hair, whether it be after a breakup or just because, my suggestion: Do it! You really have nothing to loose, and even more to gain.
