To The Man Who Told Me To Watch My Weight, How About You Watch Your Mouth Instead?

To The Man Who Told Me To Watch My Weight, How About You Watch Your Mouth Instead?

I really don't know how you expected me to respond to that.

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To the man who told me to watch my weight,

A Memorial Day barbecue was the last place I expected to be body shamed, but I suppose women are never safe from unsolicited criticism about their bodies regardless of where they go.

In life, I've learned to expect the unexpected, especially when alcohol is involved.

I was walking up to the table to grab another piece of watermelon when you stopped me in my tracks. "You better watch what you're eating," you said drunkenly. "Men don't like their women fat."

Does it occur to you that maybe I don't care what men want? I am a healthy weight, have a boyfriend who loves all parts of me, and feel comfortable in my own skin. You clearly don't feel the same way about yourself if you feel the need to intrude on my self-confidence.

I couldn't believe my ears at first. I thought I had to have heard you wrong. Your wife interjected, saying, "I'm sorry about him. He has no filter."

Since I was at a barbecue surrounded by family and friends, I decided to just brush off your comment to avoid conflict. I know your opinion of my body should mean nothing to me, but it still made me angry.

I understand that you had a few beers too many. I understand how hard it is for you to have a filter when you're sober, let alone drunk. But what I don't understand is why you felt the need to ruin my night and make me feel judged in a place where I felt safe.

What makes it even worse was that you made that comment in front of your 6-year-old daughter. I know you'd be the first one to punch someone in the face for saying something like that to your daughter, so don't be surprised if someone does the same to you one day. Next time you see a woman and think she should watch her weight, you should just watch your mouth and keep it to yourself instead.

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A girl who never asked for your opinion

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6 Popular Songs That Are Disrespectful to Women

Misogyny is everywhere
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The Disrespect of Women in Music

...is something that needs to be stopped. The more the media portrays women in a negative light, or in a way that encourages stereotypes and gender roles, the more people will continue to disrespect women without consequence. Music plays a huge role in so many peoples' lives, so if they hear their favorite artist bashing women, they will feel that it's okay as well. Here are just a few popular songs that either disrespect, objectify, or sexualize women; but there are thousands upon thousands more.

1. Maroon 5 "Animals"

First of all: the music video. For the people that have not seen it, Adam Levine (lead singer) is shown essentially stalking and "preying on" a random girl he sees while working at a meat shop. Yes, I know Adam is extremely attractive. But this video is so aggressive and disturbing it almost seems to be encouraging the sexual harassment of women, and believe it or not, the lyrics are just as bad.

Baby I'm preying on you tonight
Hunt you down, eat you alive
Just like animals, animals, like animals

So...women are animals that are meant to be hunted down and conquered? Do I have that right? I certainly hope not, because that would be telling men it's okay to treat women like a challenge, and we are so much more than just another "meal."

2. Pitbull "Timber"

This song is super catchy, and it's also really fun to dance to. But if you take a closer look, you can easily see the sexist quality of this song.

I have 'em like Miley Cyrus, clothes off
Twerking in their bras and thongs, timber
Face down, booty up, timber
That's the way we like to-What?-timber
I'm slicker than an oil spill
She say she won't, but I bet she will, timber




No, Pitbull, I'm pretty sure if she says she won't, then she won't. It is never okay to take a "no" as a challenge. If a girl says no to your advances, let it go. She is not yours for the taking, and you are definitely not entitled to have her "face down, booty up."

3. Robin Thicke "Blurred Lines"

This song is so thoroughly sexist that it was hard for me to even pick a sample lyric that stood out the most, but out of all of these objectifying lyrics I managed to find one that especially disgusted me.
So I'm just watching and waitin'
For you to salute the true big pimpin'
Not many women can refuse this pimpin'
I'm a nice guy but don't get confused, this pimpin'


Nice guy? Where? I'm failing to see it here. I'm sure plenty of women are able to refuse whoever they want, whenever they want, for whatever reason they want...and no one has the right to be angry with them. It is the woman's choice to turn someone down, regardless of how "pimpin'" they claim to be.

4. Nick Jonas "Jealous"

At first, this song seems kind of nice. Yeah, it's sweet when a guy gets protective of a girl, but possessiveness is a completely different story. No man has a right to any woman, or her actions.

I mean no disrespect
It's my right to be hellish
I still get jealous

No. It's not your right to be hellish. If your girl wants to be friends with someone, it is okay. You do not have a claim on her, and you don't get to control who she talks to.

5. The All American Rejects "Dirty Little Secret"



I'll keep you my dirty little secret
Don't tell anyone or you'll be just another regret
My dirty little secret
Who has to know




...Does anything really have to be said about this song?

6. Jason Derulo "Talk Dirty"

I'm not going to lie, I definitely jam to this song once in a while; but it's really negative to the female image. No one can deny that.
Been around the world don't speak their language
But your booty don't need explainin'
All I really need to understand is
When you talk dirty to me


"Don't understand what a girl is saying? It's okay because it doesn't matter anyways, as long as you can get into her pants you're good to go." That's pretty much what I get from this song.


There are good songs, too.

Alongside these few misogynistic songs, there are songs that show respect for women and give them empowerment. Some popular ones are Meghan Trainor's "No," and Shawn Mendes' "Treat You Better." My suggestion? Focus more on these positive songs than the negative, even though you may want to jam to them sometimes.

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To All Of My Brown Eyed Babies, Don't Forget That We're Unique And Beautiful, Too

An eye color doesn't make someone any less unique or beautiful.

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As I was talking to one of my friends, we came to the conversation of brown eyes. After complimenting me on mine and me doing the same for him, it suddenly hit me. I have this fascination with brown eyes, on ANYONE. I know that they are so common. I also know that everyone wishes that they were lighter, or had specks of green in them or maybe just a different color altogether, but I've learned to love and admire the beauty that is brown eyes.

I mean brown eyes in themselves are just as unique as blue or hazel eyes. So are green eyes, but those are little rarer to find.

I feel like brown eyes get such a bad rap because everyone is always in awe of the people with blue or green eyes. People tend to think that you're normal or basic if you have brown eyes because so does Sally, Jane, Maggie, Joey, and Parker and on and on and on. But just because someone else has the same thing that everyone else has doesn't make that thing less beautiful or special. Just because everyone has the same picture doesn't mean that the moment the photo captures is any less significant.

I found my immense love of brown eyes a few years ago when I met a friend of mine and became absolutely mesmerized by his big brown eyes. I quite literally could not stop looking at them. It was like all of the sudden something switched and suddenly all I saw were brown eyes, and I couldn't stop looking for them. Maybe it was part of me coming into my own because around that same time I was finally starting to become confident in myself again and with me having brown eyes…maybe that is why I suddenly saw brown eyes in a new light.

I hope that whoever reads this, male or female, knows that they are beautiful, big, brown eyes. I want you to know that just because you may have something that a lot of other people have doesn't mean that you are any less unique or special.

So, dear brown-eyed boy or girl, I love the way the light hits your eyes in the morning, and the way they sparkle when you laugh or smile. Never lose that, and always be proud of it. For all of us with brown eyes, I hope you find someone who loves your perfectly common yet perfectly unique brown eyes as much as I do.

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