Your Body Is Not Wrong. Society Is.

Your Body Is Not Wrong. Society Is.

Your Worth is Not Measured by the Size of Your Waist

Social media has ruined the way we look at ourselves and I absolutely hate it.

I'm here to say; eat whatever you feel like, work out as much as you want to, and be proud of the body God gave you.

Your worth is not measured by the size of your waist. There are millions of women out there who feel the same way as you do and it's a normal thing.

It is a normal habit of ours to feel insecure at times. We are always comparing ourselves to others, looking in the mirror and pointing out every flaw. It is hard getting on social media everyday to see perfectly airbrushed women on magazines, or half naked women showing off their 'New Years Resolution Bods'. Although, not all of us women are meant to look so perfect all the time, so why are we being so harsh to ourselves over things we can't control?

Stop comparing yourself to someone you're not.

When you are scrolling through social media, you see your body through the eyes of the Victoria’s Secret models, of celebrities, of all the boys you have been in love with. All of these people are just totally irrelevant and don't matter to you. You automatically judge yourself based on them, look at yourself thinking they’re judging you, assessing whether you’re good enough for them or not, and even worse, you think your body is what defines you.

You're lying to yourself. Your body is not what defines you. You’re so much more than that. You're not like those models and celebrities. You don't have the power to be perfectly airbrushed and photoshopped for every photo you take. And guess what? You’re not supposed to be. You don’t need to be. Why would you need to fit yourself into anyone else’s beauty standard instead of just yourself, of who you feel most authentic to be?

No one on is the same. Keep in mind, everyone is born all shapes and sizes. It's crazy to understand, but that even includes those models you see in magazines. They were born with those sizes and shapes that have them doing certain things such as promoting products and modeling. They didn't have the choice to choose their bone structures or their genes. Just like you and I, it's not something you could just turn into after exhaustive diets and exercises that might even harm you.

Just breathe and look at how beautiful you are. Take a second and stop being so harsh and critical on yourself. Give your precious body a break because YOU deserve it. Your body has done a great job keeping you active, healthy, functional and yes, alive. Shouldn’t it be your turn to take good care of it now?

It feels normal to have a thought in our head every time we look in a mirror and automatically start picking out things that are wrong with us. It's almost like a voice that says we’re too much or too little but never just right and so we need to change. We are always criticizing ourselves instead of acknowledging how amazing we actually are.

Next time you look in the mirror, look at yourself like you are a little kid who recognizes herself for the first time in the mirror. Realizing how beautiful you look with the bright makeup all over your face, with the same kind of curiosity, of excitement, with no judgement, no comparison, no feeling like you’re not good enough.

When you look in the mirror, ask yourself, since when you started to let those harsh, critical thoughts start to creep inside your head, eating you away, torturing you, stopping you from realizing that you’re so beautiful you no matter what. Then let it all go. Do not let it take over.

Think about all of your friends, family, boyfriend, random strangers, giving you compliments and the happiness it gives you when you hear those things. Realize that you’re beautifully you and that beauty shines through your smile, your kindness, your courage, your amazing personality and love for everyone close to you. Believe that you will be loved for exactly who you are. You will be accepted for this body, this face and every single stretch mark, scar, blemish, and all the other beautiful flaws.

You will always have the family and friends supporting you everyday. Working hard for what you desire and being proud of yourself is what is going to help you through any obstacle. Appreciate those small gestures that go unnoticeable at times.

As you start to love yourself, and the skin and body you have been blessed with, you will be seen as more than your bone and flesh, more than anything the naked eyes could see. You will be felt from the heart by a soul that feels yours too. You deserve that. Because that's what you will get as long as you be you.

Finally, please free yourself of all the negativity.

Free yourself from judging yourself based on the latest Instagram model, stop with the beauty trends, and from people’s opinions. Never make yourself someone you are not and will never have to be. You are loved for everything about you, whether you realize it or not. Please don't ever be ashamed of who you are. Love and embrace every bit of it because you are you. No one else can be that.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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In Real Life, 'Plus Size' Means A Size 16 And Up, Not Just Women Who Are Size 8's With Big Breasts

The media needs to understand this, and give recognition to actual plus-size women.


Recently, a British reality dating TV show called "Love Island" introduced that a plus-sized model would be in the season five lineup of contestants. This decision was made after the show was called out for not having enough diversity in its contestants. However, the internet was quick to point out that this "plus-size model" is not an accurate representation of the plus-size community.

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It is so frustrating that the media picks and chooses women that are the "ideal" version of plus sized. In the fashion world, plus-size starts at size 8. EIGHT. In real life, plus-size women are women who are size 16 and up. Plunkett Research, a marketing research company, estimated in 2018 that 68% of women in America wear a size 16 to 18. This is a vast difference to what we are being told by the media. Just because a woman is curvy and has big breasts, does NOT mean that they are plus size. Marketing teams for television shows, magazines, and other forms of media need to realize that the industry's idea of plus size is not proportionate to reality.

I am all for inclusion, but I also recognize that in order for inclusion to actually happen, it needs to be accurate.

"Love Island" is not the only culprit of being unrealistic in woman's sizes, and I don't fully blame them for this choice. I think this is a perfect example of the unrealistic expectations that our society puts on women. When the media tells the world that expectations are vastly different from reality, it causes women to internalize that message and compare themselves to these unrealistic standards.

By bringing the truth to the public, it allows women to know that they should not compare themselves and feel bad about themselves. Everyone is beautiful. Picking and choosing the "ideal" woman or the "ideal" plus-size woman is completely deceitful. We as a society need to do better.

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