The Birthmark On My Face Doesn't Tear Me Down Anymore — It Only Builds Me Up

The Birthmark On My Face Doesn't Tear Me Down Anymore — It Only Builds Me Up

Self love and acceptance is the first step to not caring what other people think.


Having a birthmark on your face, is pretty noticeable, so of course it sticks out a ton. I never really cared or thought about to growing up. People, especially little kids, would about it and I would answer their questions and never thought twice about it. That was until I was in middle school. Let's be honest here, middle schoolers are mean. Everyone wants to be "popular", and no one wants to be seen as "weird" or "different." I was labeled those things, and a lot more, because of my birthmark. And that is when it started to bother me that I had a birthmark on my face.

It more than bothered me, I straight up hated it. A lot of the time I wished that I never had one, or that I could get rid of it. I didn't have a lot of friends because no one wants to be friends with the weird kid. I mean people talked to me in class and stuff, but they would go behind my back and make up things and call me names. I did my best to just ignore it but when you're entire school, even people you don't know, are calling you really mean names, it's hard.

Now I laugh about these names and joke around about how dumb they sound, but I'm also 22 years old...when you're 11 you just bottle up all of your emotions and try your best to ignore them.

I wasn't going to mention this but I think it's important to share so people can get a better understanding of some of the names I was called. The most popular name for me was sh*t stain.

How can anyone try a build of confidence, and enjoy going out when a bunch of people are saying that to me when I walk by? I was in a band and I hated every second sitting the band room because when the band teacher is focusing on one instruments section, the people in your section are whispering names to you. When we had to share a stand, whether it was on my music or the other persons, somehow it would have something mean written on it.

I hated gym class, because of the locker room. The gym teachers, are either in the gym or in the hallway, so that meant to everyone else that they could bully me and call me names and get away with it.

For all my middle school years and even my high school years, I really tried my hardest to ignore what everyone said but when I went home I would just hide in my room. I stopped going out with the little friends that I had, and I pushed away a lot of people. I always thought that people were just my friend to be nice and to be seen as a nice person.

I really hated my face and hated my birthmark. I hated taking pictures and looking in the mirror because that's all I would notice. I felt like I was cursed because of it.

All that changed when I got to college, and when you get to college, no one cares about anything. We all go about our lives and we're all 18 and older, so we all realize that it's pretty childish to make fun of somebody for something that they can't control.

Throughout college, I stopped caring about what everyone used to say about me, and I started doing my own thing. In doing my own thing, I forgot would forget all about my birthmark until some random kind stranger would mention how much that they like it, or how cool it was because it's not often that somebody has a birthmark on their eye.

Now I realize how cool my birthmark actually is. Not that many people have it, I've only seen one other person with this sat birthmark but it was on the other eye, and it was years ago, and I haven't seen anyone else with it since then.

Today whenever I look in the mirror and take pictures, I don't even notice it and when I do, it doesn't tear me down, it builds me up because I've come to love it. It just reminds me of how unique and individual I am.

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Let's Talk More About Lori Laughlin Facing Up To 20 Years In Prison When Brock Turner Got 6 Months

And he was released three months early for 'good behavior'... after sexually assaulting an unconscious girl behind a dumpster.


To start, Lori Laughlin messed up royally, and I don't condone her actions.

If you live under a rock and are unaware of what happened to the "Full House" star, here's the tea:

Lori Laughlin and husband Mossimo Giannulli — and like 50 other celebrity parents — were found guilty of conspiracy to commit fraud, and paid a $1 million bail on conspiracy to commit mail fraud, and honest services fraud. You don't need to know what these mean except that she paid $500,000 to get her two daughters, Bella and Olivia Jade Giannulli.

I know you're wondering why they did it — tbh I am too — however, these parents paid the University of Southern California to give admission to her daughters in through the rowing team on campus, despite neither one of them actually playing the sport ever in their life.

Yeah, Aunt Becky messed up and should face punishment, but why is she facing up 20 years when men like Brock Turner are sentenced only six months for raping an unconscious woman behind a dumpster at Stanford?

I hate to bring up the gender card, but I'm pulling it: Why is Lori Laughlin — a woman who with bad judgement who used money to give an upper-hand to her entitled daughters — face more prison time than a man who willingly raped a woman who wasn't in a right state of mine (or any at all!) behind a dumpster of all places.

The answer? Because the system is a mess.

Yeah, Aunt Becky paid for her daughters to get into a school, giving disadvantages to students actually deserving and wanting to attend a college. Her act was immoral, and ultimately selfish, but it doesn't even compare to what Brock Turner did, and it doesn't even effect others as much his rape survivor.

The most that will happen to the Giannulli girls is an expulsion and a temporary poor reputation, however, Emily Doe (the alias of the survivor) will feel the consequences of the attack forever.

There should have been a switch:

Lori Laughlin and the Target guy should have had to pay other students tuition/student debt while facing prison time, while Brock Turner should have had to face over 20 years with more consequences.

But, that'll never happen because our system sucks and society is rigged. I guess our society would prefer a rapist walking around more so a woman who made a poor choice by paying for her daughters to go to a college.

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Teaching Is An Amazing Career, It's More Powerful Than We Give It Credit For

Teaching is a career that is heavily overlooked — it is much more powerful than people realize.


When it comes to teaching, it's not always easy or fun. But, let me ask you this: what career really is easy or fun all the time? Being challenged can beneficial. Otherwise, you are just going through the same routine over and over. Teaching will definitely keep you on your toes because there's always something happening.

People seem to think teachers just lecture on information that they hope their students remember for the test. You know what? Those people are dead wrong. Teaching is more than that. Teaching means having the passion and drive to educate children. Teaching is turning something dull to something that students will find more interesting and enjoyable.

Teaching is also about providing tools and other resources for students in order for them to succeed, especially the ones who tend to struggle in school. Being able to give those tools to help them accomplish their goals is extremely rewarding. A teacher will work with a student who is behind on his/her reading skills to have him/her be right at the level he/she needs to be by the end of the school year. Not many jobs provide a reward quite like guiding a student, if not more, to success.

Although it focuses on academics, teaching is not just about that. Sure, being an effective teacher is key, but there are other aspects that are just as significant. As a teacher, you also have to connect with your students. Knowing your students on a personal level is so important. The connection can build respect that will, in turn, help them to succeed. Plus, students spend more time with you on a day-to-day basis than they do with their parents — isn't that frightening? So, you have to be able to support them and let them know them that you are there for them if they are having trouble.

Additionally, that connection you build with your students can last a lifetime. You can witness the growth of a student right in front of you. In fact, I am still very close with some of my teachers from elementary school. Many of them inspired me to become a teacher. Because of those great bonds I built, I had the opportunity to intern with some of my past teachers, which was a rewarding experience for everyone. Being able to develop such a connection with someone so different in age is something that is so powerful and that doesn't come with many other careers.

Teaching is so amazing. There are so many layers and beautiful aspects to it. Again, it can be difficult, but it's also a lot of fun. Not many people can say they have fun and laugh every day at work. I also truly believe that not many other people can say their careers provide as rewarding of a feeling as teaching does. To be able to make such a difference in someone's life is an incredible thing. Teaching is my passion. I know teaching will not be only gratifying but something that will bring me pure joy.

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