Not Having A Lot Of Friends In College Means I Have More Time To Focus On Myself

Not Having A Lot Of Friends In College Means I Have More Time To Focus On Myself

The "typical college experience" may entail having a huge group of friends you do everything with. This isn't always the case with everyone, and it may not be as terrible as you imagine.

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The "typical college experience" may entail having a huge group of friends you do everything with. This isn't always the case with everyone, and it may not be as terrible as you imagine.

First of all, the less time you schedule with other people, the more time you have to study and work on homework. Doing well in school is, after all, what you came to college to do. By the end of the semester, you'll have grades that you're proud of.

On a similar note, not being a part of a large group might mean having to avoid spending time with people you don't particularly care about. It's not a rare thing to have that one person (or maybe multiple people) that you just can't stand but you "have to" put up with their shit because everyone else in the group likes them for some reason you can't figure out. By steering clear of that scene, you avoid that feeling.

All my fellow introverts out there can relate to this, but more time to yourself can mean more time to do things that interest you, and more importantly, time to breathe. If you're like me, if you spend about hours upon hours doing club activities and interacting with people, by the end of the day you need a break. Having your alone time will allow you to catch up on Shane Dawson's conspiracy series, or finish that book you've been dying to get to all day.

Lastly, having a smaller amount of friends allows you to really appreciate fully the ones you do have. Odds are, after graduating, you're only going to be in touch with a few people anyway, so it's okay to focus on the ones that are important to you.

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10 Bible Verses for Self Esteem

Sometimes you need to search for inner strength and find your own self worth.
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We all get those days that we just don't feel good enough for anything. Everything is going wrong. For me, I go to the bible to read the words of God. His personal dialog for us is filled with encouragement, hope, and lessons we can learn from. Here are my top ten verses that are uplifting and impacting when at the lowest of lows:

1. Philippians 4:13:

I can do all things in Him who strengthens me.

2. Psalm 46:5

God is within her, she will not fall.

3. Proverbs 31:25

She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.

4. Psalm 28:76

The Lord is my strength and my shield.

5. 1 Corinthians 25:10

By the grace of God, I am what I am.

6. Romans 5:8

I loved you at your darkest.

7. Psalm 62:5-6

Only God gives inward peace, and I depend on Him. God alone is the mighty rock that keeps me safe, and he is the fortress where I feel secure.

8. 2 Timothy 1:7

For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.

9. 1 Peter 2:9

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.

10. 2 Chronicles 20:15

The battle is not ours, but God's.

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Today Was A Bad Day, And That's OK

It's the little things that matter the most.

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Today was a bad day.

I had a nightmare last night. It was so vivid and realistic. Some nightmares I can easily forget about, but this one was difficult to push out of my mind. I woke up in cold sweats, my heart was beating fast. I genuinely felt sick to my stomach. I wish I had never dreamt what I had dreamt. The nightmare really messed me up. It was all I had thought about for most of the day.

I couldn't focus on my school work. I definitely couldn't stay focused in class. I had a pop quiz that I was not prepared for, and there was already too much built-up stress from just the past two weeks. I felt like I couldn't go on with the rest of my day. To keep it somewhat short, things just weren't going my way. I was being too hard on myself and my anxiety was through the roof.

As dramatic as it may seem, this nightmare was too personal, too scary, too heartbreaking, and not too far-fetched. Words cannot explain how dark I had felt today. It brought me to a place I thought I had moved on from.

Today was a bad day, and that's okay.

I got a call from my dad and a text from my mom, both encouraging me to move forward and not stress. There was reassurance in my dad's voice and through my mother's words. Words reassuring me they would always be there for me and loved me.

I took a trip to Gino's with my roommates. That burger was hitting, onion rings and all. These were the "perks" of my day, and though they don't seem like a lot, it meant the world to me.

It truly is the little things that can make your day. Like a call from your daddy, a text from your mama, or a trip to one of your favorite burger spots with some friends. The littlest things help you put things into perspective. These little things came to me at a point where I genuinely really needed them.

These little things distracted me from the most terrible and scarring nightmare. These little things are the things that remind me to move forward, ever stronger. These little things are the things that remind me you can turn a bad day into a good day, but only if you allow this.

Today was a bad day and there's no doubt that I will have many more. That's okay, because it's about the little things that really matter.

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