Relationships come and go, but friends are forever. Your best friend is someone who you can go to for anything. A best friend is someone who always listens to you and who gives you advice. A best friend is someone who will love you for you, no matter what. You and your best friend are inseparable and will be best friends forever, or so we would like to think.
As anybody with a best friend knows, there is no life without that person. They have been through many of the big milestones in your life, as you have in theirs. They are basically the siblings who you’ve always wanted.
Then comes the day when she tells you that you are not who she thought that you were. She no longer needs you. Everything surfaces that was wrong in your friendship. All of the memories that you had together seem to disappear because you don’t recognize the person who stood by your side for so many years. It’s not like breaking up with a guy and saying “we can still be friends” because the sad truth is that there will be none of that.
You’ll feel hurt, angry, sad, and wonder if you really meant anything to her. The worst part is feeling lonely. She was that person who you talked to all day, every day. She was the one who you sat in your room with and did absolutely nothing. Now, you can no longer run to her because the problem that you are facing is her.
You’ll miss the ice cream dates. You’ll miss the silly things that she would say that would have you laughing so hard that you could hardly breathe, but, most importantly, you’ll miss having that person who was always there for you.
You’ll miss having her to share more memories with. You’ll wonder who your new maid of honor at your wedding will be because that spot was reserved for her.
The hardest part will be moving on. You will have to realize that she will only be a memory. You both will graduate college, get your dream jobs, get married, and start a family. You two will no longer know what is happening in each other’s lives, but what you need to realize is that there is life after her. It may seem hard to believe, but, as there was life before her, there is life after.
Her absence may always be a hole in your heart, but, eventually, that hole will get smaller. You will only miss the memories that you two shared and no longer miss her.
So, just remember, it will hurt because that person was once your ride or die, but you have much to look forward to. You will fall in love with life and what it has to offer. You will appreciate the relationships that you have in your life a lot more and love a lot harder. As for her, she will just be another memory that will be with you forever.
In memory of all of our broken friendships.
