Juggling two fraternities isn't easy.

Juggling anything extra in college isn't easy.

But I know I wouldn't change it.

Being a sweetheart for one fraternity while dating a guy in a different fraternity definitely isn't easy, but I make it work the best I can. This is a unique situation that sometimes doesn't work out well and always confuses people. The most common thing is "Wait, what?" It's fine, though because it's worth it.

You see, I'm a sweetheart for a particular fraternity because I want to be, and they want me to be. I have been since my freshman year and they were one of the first organizations I was a part of because I initially did not go through formal recruitment to join the sorority that I am now in. I knew nobody at my new school and was away from home for the first time ever. A guy I grew up around was a member of this fraternity and invited me to come to their sweetheart interest meeting and the rest is history. They made me feel at home, and they became the reasons I didn't run home every weekend to my family because I felt lonely. They made me feel like I had a family in this new town I was living in.

Fast forward one year and I meet the guy that I am now dating. He was about to begin formal recruitment for guys rush and was torn between the fraternity that I was associated with and a different one. Obviously, he was encouraged to go where he felt the most at home and that ended up being the other frat. It caused us to miss lots of parties together and sometimes made our relationship a little strained as we got used to figuring out how to handle those types of situations.

Fast forward another year and things are better than ever. Yes, I miss some of his fraternity parties because I choose to go to the frat that I am associated with, but it's not out of obligation, it's because I want to. My boyfriend understands why I'm not there and it doesn't affect our relationship anymore. Sure, we miss each other, that's to be expected, but it's not like we have to spend every waking moment together to survive. The fraternity that I'm a sweetheart for understands the situation as well. They don't make me feel guilty for wanting to be where my boyfriend is, they understand if I party hop every once in a while, they welcome my boyfriend when I bring him around to their parties, and everyone gets along.

So, yes, at times it is very stressful and hard to make the right decision and it's almost impossible to explain the situation to someone who doesn't already get it. But in the end, it really is worth it. As cliché as it sounds, I get to live the best of both worlds and am more than thankful for both of the fraternities for dealing with it, and still being my friend at the end of the day.

So thanks, guys, you are all the best!