Accepting the process is the most tedious task you could ever feel yourself go through. Bad or good. The most uncontrolled issue of our lives. Truly, can we trust something be sides ourselves enough to just simply accept what goes on within us and around us at all times?
I mean, imagine yourself literally accepting everything you face throughout your life? Wouldn't you flow so much better? But then we have emotions, other people, feelings, and the outrageous choice of so many decisions in the palm of our hands. How can we be capable of such an intense, yet rewarding motion of life?
Personally, I truly feel that everything has a purpose. Whether you can see the purpose at a specific time or you can see the growth from an inside perspective. Either way, it will eventually uncover itself to you. I don't mean continuously searching for a purpose of everything that goes on in your life. It's really just about casually putting the pieces together as time goes on.
I feel that people come into your life exactly when you need them to and exactly when they need you to. You need each other, but for reasons out of your control. Not many people have this outlook, and for awhile, I didn't either. But I realized, when I stopped being a victim, looked at my life, and all my relationships up to this exact point, it was proven that I was exactly where my energy had led me.
It's cause and effect. Life is literally about decisions. Cause and effect decisions. A bill isn't going to be paid unless you pay it. Just like your dreams won't be met until you meet them. You are the only person that can change what you do, experience, and tolerate.
I want to give you comfort in the fact that if you don't like something, you can do whatever you need to do to in order to feel better. If you feel like you have no control, no faith, no love, go to a place where you feel those things. Even if it's for a couple of days. Get a new perspective from a place that you care about and that cares about you, whatever that may be.
Find anyone that can see the light in you to show you when you can't see it yourself. Nothing about you disappeared. You still hold every power within you that got you through everything up until this exact point. You're just preoccupied. It's okay. It's human to resist the transitions in your life. This is called growing up. You'll get better at it as you go.
Nobody said it was easy (obviously) but you'll come to find out that when you work with what you're given, you will start excelling in every area of your life until it becomes what you envision it to be.
But of course we don't know what we want, and truthfully I don't think none of us ever will. I just know for a fact that we chase exactly what we don't have already. Not in a selfish, demeaning way, but that's the way we are wired when we don't appreciate anything for what it is.
It's all about your general intentions. If you go through life feeling like the world owes you something, then that's exactly what you'll externalize in every situation of your life. Then you'll be clueless as to why you aren't getting what you think you want. If you want specific things and know you will get them later on, then that's exactly what you'll get.
It's a freaking game. Place your intentions at a higher frequency and I promise you that you'll meet them on a higher frequency.
You won't get anywhere until you accept where you're at first.
When the negative tension in my life grows and life gets tough, I think of dying. Since I reflect and understand that dying is a complete valid option. It immediately dawns on me that I truly don't want to die yet. And since I withhold the choice to make it all end, I know deep down that since I'm not dead yet, I might as well do whatever I want instead. No fear, just an impactful truth that validates my life when I feel like I don't have one.
It's a small comforting reminder that I can literally change what I want at any time, that dreams can be real, and that I am loved by so many people even when I don't love myself. And I think that's insanely cool.
It kind of gives me motivation to love myself more especially when I see others treat me the way they do and I wonder, "How do I deserve this?", then I remember that I totally do. Completely and fully. And so do you!
Emotions are fleeting, a mindset is forever. Accept the process before the process controls you. You hold the decision.
