In recent years, our culture has taken strides to try to stop the negativity that surrounds body types that are heavier. Aerie and other companies are beginning to refrain from touching up girls and seeking models of all shapes in sizes. Today, in terms of most mature, polite people, fat shaming has become something to avoid in conversation. More songs come out about embracing the kind of person that you are, and I think that is awesome.
However, not all shapes and sizes are loved and accepted by society, it's just the way the world is.
At this time, the most desirable body type is girls with big boobs, a small waist, and wider hips. As hard as it to believe, people can be as mean and judgmental towards girls who are skinny as well.
My whole life, I was "skinny mini." I'm currently 18 years old, am 5-foot-7, and weigh 120 lbs. I don't tend to eat a lot because I naturally have a smaller stomach and a weird metabolism. A lot of times I've been told that I look weak, that I can be "snapped in half like a toothpick" and that I have the body that "resembles an 11 year old boy before he hits puberty." I have had countless amounts of girls snicker about my size, too. When I was playing rugby, one girl screamed at her teammate who was trying to tackle me: "Why can't you get her f--king down? That girl looks pathetic!" When I mention that I play a contact sport, lots of people stare at me and say: "A girl your size? Aren't you afraid of getting beat up?"
Girls can be much more ruthless when making fun of a skinny girl than a fat girl sometimes, especially if there's a hint of jealousy going on. I just want to state that "being born in all shapes and sizes" includes being smaller. Lots of people say that I should love myself and not starve myself when I don't eat a lot at dinner.
First of all, I was born this way. I am not anorexic.
I can't force myself to eat more than I already do, or I'll get sick. I think forcing myself to eat more to gain weight is more like an eating disorder rather than just eating enough for myself. When I say I want to work out, it's not because I want to lose weight, it's because I want to get stronger. However, just because I am skinny doesn't mean that I am physically incapable of carrying things myself, sticking up for myself, or am unable to be just as athletic as a girl who seems to have more "meat on her bones."
Girls who are skinny have just as many insecurities about themselves as other people. We just want different things. We see other girls and think, "wow, I wish I had her curves" or "wow, I wish I had a bigger butt." Even though I have accepted the way that I am, sometimes I do have those thoughts because of the constant comments made about my body. So instead of thinking that you can make those sarcastic comments to us, think twice if you would want someone to critique you that way.
