If you’re a girl that’s “one of the guys,” then these are probably the top 10 occurrences you face on a regular basis.
1. Many people label you a girl-hater.
I don’t know why, but this is such a common misconception about a girl who has more guy friends than girl friends. Just because you connect more with guys doesn’t mean you’re anti-girl. The truth is, friendships with girls are pretty much out of your realm of comfort, but that doesn’t make them off-limits.
2. These are usually the same people that assume you’re just looking for attention.
When you’re deemed “one of the guys,” people tend to think that you aren’t being genuine. You’re labeled “fake,” because it isn’t like you could possibly have a real friendship with members of the opposite sex, right?
3. Most of these people also expect that you have or will at some point hook up with one (or all) of your guy friends.
The reason why your friendships work with your guy friends is because you are strictly and platonically friends. You don’t have feelings for them and they don’t have feelings for you. You spend time together because you both enjoy each other’s company, not because you’re trying to be friends-turned-more.
4. Basically, being “one of the guys” leads to judgment all around.
Slut-shaming is the most common form of judgment when you have a lot of guy friends, even though they’re only friends. However, you also get people questioning why you aren’t friends with more girls, wondering if you’re difficult to get along with. It never ceases to shock you anytime someone comes to you with another assumption of why you’re friends with your boys.
5. Your friend's girlfriend doesn't understand, or trust, your friendship.
You’ve been friends for years. No, you aren’t interested in him. No, he isn’t interested in you (he’s dating his girlfriend for a reason, but apparently this fact still needs to be pointed out from time to time). No, you are not going to come in between any relationship, and it isn’t your mission to try and break anyone up.
6. You’re the official advice-giver to all your boys.
At least once a week, either when you’re hanging out with one of your guy friends or talking to them on the phone, you’ll get the infamous “Well, since you’re a girl…” as they ask you for advice about a girl they’re interested in. You love that they’re comfortable enough with you to confide in you with the juicy details of their love life.
7. You know that you can go to them when you need advice, too.
You often ask them to return the favor with, “Well, since you’re a guy…” and it works out pretty perfectly. Who knows better advice about a guy than a guy? It’s also pretty cool that they’re willing to listen to your girly problems and help out when they can.
8. They’re practically overprotective big brothers.
Your close guy friends are basically your older brothers, as you also turn into someone who is like a sister to them. They turn into your family. When you talk about your latest crush or introduce them to a new boyfriend, it’s natural for your boys to want to make sure he’s worthy of you (and you’re the exact same way with them).
9. You need to remind them that you are a girl and are (occasionally) subject to sensitivity.
Because you are a girl, you will have days when you’re more sensitive than others; but because your boys see you as “one of the guys,” they’ll rag on you all the same. Sometimes they need a little reminding every now and then that them picking on you can get tiring or rub you the wrong way.
10. They don’t filter themselves around you, so you hear way more than what you want to sometimes.
Being looked at and treated as if you’re on the same level as a guy can be great. But occasionally, they completely lose their filter and you end up knowing things about them that you could’ve gone your entire life staying in the dark about and been content. Luckily for them, it comes with the territory and you’re used to it by now.
Your boys can be a true pain sometimes, but you wouldn’t trade them for anything. Being “one of the guys” isn’t always the easiest thing in the world, nor does it always grant you every day free of outside judgment, but you would be lost without the incredible friendships you’ve made, and you’re forever grateful for them.
