Apparently girls aren't pretty unless they're wanted.
Apparently boys aren't men unless they're having sex with someone.
And people don't seem to be lovable until they're dating someone.
So many times people who aren't in a relationship say, "No one loves me." Well, that's not right. Love does not subside when sex isn't involved. There are so many people who love you, but you ignore it because you're not 'wanted.' You should see this love as so much stronger because these people love you without wanting anything from you; they don't desire your body or your actions, they just love you for you.
It's great to be in love, sure. Sometimes everything seems magical. But don't forget that love is not all that comes along with a relationship. Relationships don't automatically make you happy.
Why does there have to be "the one"? I've had such a problem with this lately. It seems that people's journey in life is to hunt down that one that they can stand. Because this person is too short, and this person is too tall, I don't like the way they get their hair cut, and their laugh is annoying. Holy shit, stop imagining yourself spending the rest of your life with them and you wouldn't be so bothered. You shouldn't have to have your future decided, that's so boring and predictable and doesn't allow for all of the things that you deserve.
Every single thing that I see on social media and hear around me is about being with another person. I've never found anything more beautiful than being alone. It's nice to have someone around sometimes and if you asked me a year ago, all I wanted was the relationship that I had but I still wanted to be happy. I didn't know half of the things then that I know now, about myself and just about life. It had to take destroying myself to truly find who I am and want to be.
Instead of looking for our other halves, we should be looking for parts of ourselves. Look for the things that bring out your smile and the things that make you laugh, these can be people but it doesn't mean that you need to commit to being theirs or to having them around every day. It's better to find these things in places and hobbies and even in your own personality. It's okay to miss people and to flirt and if you find someone you truly want to be with, good for you. But don't make it a priority. Don't make it a goal. I haven't even made it a plan. Maybe there will be someone, maybe there won't.
Remember that being in a relationship has nothing to do with success. It is no measurement of happiness.
It takes a strong person to remain single in a world that is accustomed to settling for anything just to say they have something.
