Confession: I am a people pleaser. This means I constantly try to make others feel comfortable because I want them to be happy. Because of this I often find myself apologizing unnecessarily. This summer I have come to realize that that needs to end.
"Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment"-Proverbs 12:19
The simple utterance of the word sorry seems to smooth things over and makes problems seem like not such a big deal. After all that's why it's so quick to roll off the tongue. But the problem arises when it undermines my own words. It shows doubt. In order to be taken seriously, I have to believe in the truth behind my words.
Apologies should be an opportunity for humility, not to undermine yourself.
I'm not saying the word sorry is unneccesary, it is important to be able to realize when I am wrong. I'm not saying to never apologize, everyone needs a little humility in their lives. But in order for real apologies to have meaning behind them, the word sorry cannot be thrown around so flippantly. It takes the meaning away. There should be no question if I am truly sorry when apologizing or if it is just an apology out of habit.
Sorry, but I'm not sorry. I'm owning my actions, following my instinct, and staying true to the person I want to become. I want my words to be meaningful and my apologies to be rooted in truth. So before you say sorry, ask yourself if you mean it.