Breakups are always tough, and we tend to lose ourselves over the hurt and pain someone caused us. A year ago, I lost sight of myself over a man and the end of a temporary relationship that broke me.

You see those cheesy Facebook posts that say, “What is a Queen without her King?” & a year ago, I would’ve thought the same.

I came across this question on Facebook, and I fixated on it for days, wondering why women DO wait for men. Why us beautiful queens act like damsels in distress, waiting for a knight in shining armor to pick us up and ride us into the sunset?

We all wait for someone to save us, for someone to slay our dragon and to be our hero. We crave for someone to love our flaws, our silly quirks, and our darkest days.

We simply wait for love to come to us.

We wait…

We wait, forgetting that we are our own heroes. Forgetting to love ourselves for who we are and that love comes from within the depths of our souls.

To my fellow queens, stop waiting for miracles to happen. Instead, let us be our own heroes. We will be a love for the world, and we will always be kind to ourselves & protect our hearts. We will rule our own kingdom with confidence, power, and grace.

For a queen can never be powerful while waiting around for a king.

So, back to the original question, what is a queen without her king?

According to history, she is more powerful, so let’s ask some of the most famous women rulers: Cleopatra, Nefertiti, Victoria, Elizabeth, Amina, & the countless other Kingless Queens who chose their kingdom over any man.

These Queens never married because they chose to love themselves and their kingdom rather than a man, and that's why they became the most successful rulers in history.

Love is wonderfully bliss, and it makes your entire body fill with butterflies, but it will never give you the same satisfaction of your own love and success. Find a King that will help you to rule your kingdom and help you succeed, rather than a joker who will leave you for the next damsel in distress and make you look like a fool.