To The Girl Who Doesn't Like Her College Roommate

To The Girl Who Doesn’t Get Along With Her Roommate

There is more to college than what you are experiencing now.


All my life when I imagined going away to college, I always pictured living with one of my best friends. I had this unrealistic expectation of meeting a complete stranger, immediately clicking with her, and being best friends. That's what happens for everyone, right? I would read these articles that people had written to their roommate thanking them for their friendship, and I couldn't wait for that experience. Unfortunately, I never got it.

I decided to go random with my roommate for my freshman year of college. I was going to a school where I didn't know anyone, and I was really hoping I clicked with my roommate. Prior to moving in together, we had exchanged a few texts, but we had not gotten to know each other, which I had hoped would change. Once we moved in though, it didn't change. Not in the slightest.

I tried to keep an open mind, but it became apparent that we were just two completely different people.

Our room was always silent because neither one of us knew what to say to each other.

I hated being in my room and would call my mom crying because I felt like I had to escape. After talking to my RA, I realized nothing was going to change. When I would go home, which was quite a bit, I would cry at the thought of going back to that room.

At the time, I felt so much pressure to make it work. I was struggling with accepting that the "perfect" roommate situation I had envisioned in my head was not going to be a reality for me. Letting go of this expectation was what held me back the most. My point of this isn't to make you feel bad for me. I want you to realize that it's okay to not have the perfect roommate situation.

It's okay to not have the ultimate college experience that you imagined.

In the end, every experience is unique which is easy to forget when we are constantly seeing other people's lives on social media. We think that everyone has the perfect living situation, but we only see what they share. I don't want anyone to feel alone when they think about how much they don't like their living situation.

It's important to remember that this experience, whether it be good or bad, will be an experience you can learn from. Sometimes the toughest situations result in the greatest amount of growth. Use the negatives of the situation as motivation to go out and meet new people. In the end, you are in charge of your own happiness. You can't blame being dealt a sucky situation for everything. Just try to make it through the year, and know that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

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Dear Mom and Dad, You Don't Understand What College Is Actually Like In The 21st Century

I can skip class. I can leave early, and I can show up late. But, ya see, I am not doing that.

College is not what you think it is. I am not sitting in a classroom for six hours listening to a professor speak about Shakespeare and the WW2.

I am not given homework assignments every night and told to hand them in next class.

I do not know my daily grade for each of the five classes I am taking, and I don't know if my professor even knows my name.

College today is a ton different than how it was 20+ years ago.

I go to class for about maybe three hours a day. Most of my time working on "college" is spent outside of the classroom. I am the one responsible for remembering my homework and when my ten-page essay is due.

I can skip class. I can leave early, and I can show up late. But, ya see, I am not doing that. I am a responsible person, even if you do not think I am.

I do get up every morning and drive myself to class. I do care about my assignments, grades, my degree, and my career.

I spend a lot of time on campus having conversations with my friends and relaxing outside.

I am sick of older generations thinking that us millennials are lazy, unmotivated, and ungrateful. While I am sure there are some who take things for granted, most of us paying to get a degree actually do give a s**t about our work ethic.

Dear mom and dad, I do care about my future and I am more than just a millennial looking to just get by.

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How To Stay Mentally Healthy In College

Our mental health is just as important as our physical health.


Staying healthy in college seems really, really hard to do. Classes, friends, clubs, and the whole fact of living by yourself can create a lot of stress and anxiety. Most students, and people in general, don't really know how to deal with stress or how to take care of themselves mentally, leading to unhealthy behaviors physically and mentally. If you don't take care of your mental health, your physical health will suffer eventually. Here are a few tips and tricks to help take care of your mental health:

1. Eat a well-balanced diet

Eating fruits, vegetables, grains, and other healthy foods will help you feel more energized and motivated. Most people associate eating a balanced diet as beneficial for your physical health, but it is just as important for your mental health.

2. Keep a journal and write in it daily

Writing can be one of the most relaxing and stress-relieving things you can do for yourself. Writing down the issues you are struggling with or the problems you are encountering in your life on a piece of paper can help you relax and take a step back from that stress.

3. Do something that brings you joy

Take some time to do something that brings you joy and happiness! It can be really easy to forget about this when you are running around with your busy schedule but make some time to do something you enjoy. Whether it be dancing, writing, coloring, or even running, make some time for yourself.

4. Give thanks

Keeping a gratitude log — writing what brings you joy and happiness — helps to keep you positively minded, which leads to you becoming mentally healthy. Try to write down three things that brought you joy or made you smile from your day.

5. Smile and laugh

Experts say that smiling and laughing help improve your mental health. Not only is it fun to laugh, but laughing also helps you burn calories! There's a reason why smiling and laughing are often associated with happiness and joyful thoughts.

6. Exercise

Staying active and doing exercises that energize your body will help release endorphins and serotonin, which both act as a natural antidepressant. Keeping an active lifestyle will help you stay happy!

7. Talk out your problems

All of us deal with stress and have problems from time to time. The easiest and probably most beneficial way to deal with this stress and anxiety is to talk it out with a close friend, family member, or even a counselor.

8. See a counselor, peer mentor, or psychologist

Just like it was stated in the previous point, it is beneficial to talk out your problems with a counselor. We all have issues, and it is OK to ask for help.

Keeping up your mental health in college can be a struggle, and it may be hard to even admit you are not mentally healthy. This is OK; you are not alone. If you want to see a psychologist or would like to learn more about mental health, there are resources. You can also take a self-assessment of your mental health. If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, please, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

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