Goodbye Rudeness, Hello Kindness

Goodbye Rudeness, Hello Kindness

Sometimes we need to check ourselves and our attitudes

We all have those days, you know the ones where things just can’t seem to go your way. The day where you’re behind schedule, spilling or dropping anything that contains a hot mess and seems to screw up whatever task you get your get your hands on.

The day where you’re not one to be messed with for fear that you may possibly produce an overflow of lava from the crown of your head, which could end badly because of your already pounding headache, also known as Monday. Days like this happen sometimes but that’s no excuse to throw around rudeness or disrespect like confetti. Rain is beautiful but when you’re raining on everyone’s parade with a sour attitude or sharp words, you kinda spoil the parade.

The worst is when this occurs to those who are serving you.

No matter if it’s ordering food, paying for gas, checking into a hotel, boarding a plane, sampling lotion, or dining for lunch, the people who are serving you most likely have a job where they have to constantly deal with people. You may be surprised at the fact that your attitude can make or break their work shift or their entire day. It’s not expected that you become the best of friends with people but at least giving a friendly smile or greeting goes a long way.

If you encounter someone who doesn’t have the greatest attitude that’s still no reason to be vicious. As the famous saying goes, you can’t fight fire with fire, the same applies here. No good will come out of everyone treating each other with disrespect. The best way to go about a situation like this is to actually be kind.

It doesn’t matter if the person you’re dealing with continues to carry their harsh attitude, just focus on evaluating your attitude, making it as kind and warm as possible. Regardless of their attitude at least you can continue on with your day knowing that you were you’re best yourself even when faced with someone who may not have been the nicest.

In cases like this, the best remedy is love.

Other people are not to be used as punching bags, stress balls, or whatever else you wish to smash due to frustration and life happening. Life happens but that doesn’t mean you take it out on everyone around you.

Your terrible, horrible no good, very bad day doesn’t go to the person serving you lunch, the person who grabbed a parking spot closest to the door just as you were about to pull in it, or the person who bumped into you while passing by without excusing themselves. Not to say that their actions are respectful nor right but we can’t control others. We can only be the best versions of ourselves.

The way we treat others has a much bigger effect that we know. Just as a smile can make a person naturally smile back and make them feel welcomed and invited without being conscious of it, the same applies for our attitudes. When we go around with craptastic attitudes towards others it has a ripple effect that tends to bring others down. You don’t have to enjoy people, and you may be experiencing a bad day but everyone deserves to be treated with respect.

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An Open Letter To My Youngest Self

From, the young adult finding comfort in the past while lost in the present.


Dear future big person,

Speaking from experience, the world is a crazy place. It's sad, yet exciting to know what the future holds for you. The world has been taken over by devices and electronics most never thought were possible.

If you're wondering why I'm writing to you, it's because I care a lot more now than I did back when I was you. I'm your Marty McFly, here to tell you how to prepare for the future. (Don't ask me what that reference is –you figure it out!).

For starters, let's talk about this technology thing. Gameboys, Nintendo DS', Wiis, Xboxes –don't mess with them. Television is fine –if the people from the Cold War survived it, we can, too. I want you to spend time enjoying the real world, not the electronic, fake one.

I want you to go outside and sit in the grass, pick those dandelions and mash them up into "paint." Paint mom something nice and maybe go for a bike ride with dad. Catch lightning bugs at dusk and bottle them all up in a mason jar. Eventually, let them free, all together.

Your brother is gross and weird, but he actually turns out to be a pretty cool kid. You don't have to be all mushy with him, but be sure he knows you love him. After all, he is family.

Make friends in the neighborhood, even if they are boys. So what? Challenge them. Race them on your bike with awesome purple and white streamers drifting from the handlebars. Push hard, through the soles of your Sketchers covered feet.

Pick up a piece of chalk and create a world of your own world with 3,000 Toys R Us stores, one police station, and only a few stop signs. Create and color your own flowers, whether they actually exist or not. Let your imagination run wild!

Turn on the radio and dance like crazy! Scream the lyrics to Smashmouth's "All Star" and Gwen Stefani's "Sweet Escape." Change the station every now and then to hear something new; it's always interesting to see your reactions to these interesting creations.

I want you to wear what you feel like and don't care what the others say about you. If you want to wear your purple dress-up shoes with your matching purse and hat, then do it. If you want to wear a Hula skirt in the dead of winter, do it (but please bring some leggings so mom doesn't flip out). If you want to wear those bedazzled jeans, then rock 'em.

If you're wondering why I'm telling you to do these silly things, it's only because we lost these traits along the way. I don't want you to miss the experiences that only come from the natural world because you had your head stuck in a tablet; it will all pass you in the blink of an eye.

I don't want you to ever feel trapped inside your house, no matter the weather. There is always a way out.

Don't let other people stop you from getting something you want. Don't let them intimidate you or talk you out of something you are passionate about.

Your friends will be the people you escape to when the house seems inescapable. Treat them the way you would like to be treated.

Your imagination is one of the greatest gifts you'll ever have. It drives you –your hopes and dreams, your wishes in the fountain and your kisses to the dandelions. Don't ever stop chasing them.

Always, always do what you want to do. You sing karaoke to that super catchy song because you know you'll kill it. Wear what you want however you want because you know that you look good in some strange way. (As long as you're not naked, that is). Stubbornness is good.

Your family will always be your family. What they do affects you, and vice versa. Bring them good, positive news. They don't need any more trouble.

Stand up for yourself, for your friends and family, for your beliefs and wishes. Be proud of the work you do and the life you live. Many people around you wish they could have lived like you did.

Most importantly, do not let your past define your future. A lot of things will happen, some of which may or may not go horribly wrong. There is nothing you can do to stop these things, except hope. You can always change for the better as long as you don't look back. Be proud of your past, but be known for your future –whatever you want that to be.

Please, promise me these things. I can't stress enough how important it is for you to never lose these traits –hold them tightly and never release them. I can't tell you how this life is going to go, because that simply isn't the way this world works. Just breathe through it and listen to your gut –that's the future guiding you.

I, and many others, love you –your character, your curls, your studded jeans,your pink Power Ranger costume, your Hello Kitty backpack, and your goofy smile.

Don't ever forget that.

With love,

The Girl Who Is Lost And Trying To Turn Back Time.

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