Men always have stories about needy women they have dated or encountered, but their stories always seemed hard to believe because it sounded overly exaggerated. Living with a group of girls with different perspectives and personalities I am realizing that the stories I have heard from a males perspective are starting to seem more believable. Some men claim that women are needy when it comes to spending time together or having sex. They also claim to notice a lack self-confidence and can get a bit controlling.

In general, most women lack self-confidence which is why we are always asking questions such as, "do I look fat in this?" or "why am I not pretty enough." Men aren't used to hearing these things from a woman so when they do they automatically believe that she lacks self-confidence but we women consider it normal. From the age of eight, some of us have lacked self-confidence, especially when we start liking a boy.

From observing my friends and how they act around a new relationship, they seem to act needy around the man they start seeing. I believe that a woman acts like this because she has either never lasted with someone in a relationship or she is used to always having someone's attention and the person whom she is seeing isn't really giving it to her. For instance, my friend Claire's longest relationship was 6 months and she did not consider it to be a serious one because 6 months is a normal dating range for adults but probably considered serious in middle school.

Now she finds herself serious with someone new because of the amount of time they are spending together, which is almost every day, but when she told me that her lover refused to have sex with her one night she appeared to be very displeased. When asking her if they had sex often she replied with "yes, every night. He told me that he can't always give me what I want. Like what the hell does that mean?!" That was when I was a little shocked because as someone who has been with her boyfriend for a year, I don't always expect sex from him nor do i get highly upset when he won't have sex with me for a night. Sometimes men aren't feeling it and it is a stereotype that men always want to have sex. Clair was so upset she confronted him about it until he gave her sex that night. Needy women won't stop until they get what they want and that can sometimes be a turn off for men because in their eyes the women is controlling or "crazy."

Another of my friends gets upset when a man she finds attractive isn't giving her the time of day. She, on the other hand, is confident because she knows she is attractive since she gets everyone's attention the minute she walks into a room, but when someone she is trying to get with won't plead to take her out or reply to her texts fast she begins to ask questions like, "Is it me? Do you think i'm not his type?" or "I don't understand, he asked for my number so why isn't he texting me?"

Witnessing women with this type of behavior puts me in a males perspective and realize that women can be needy and due to that some relationships don't work or men just don't text back because they become aware of strange behavior. It would be different if women become a little needy after being in a relationship with someone for a while, such as two years and beyond, not when just starting to get to know someone new. Men need easiness at first before they get to the "crazy" side.