Although We Went Our Separate Ways, I Will Not Forget You

Although We Went Our Separate Ways, I Will Not Forget You

I won't forget you

We met at the perfect time. We were both in dysfunctional relationships. This wasn't the only thing we had in common, though. We were both very sensitive people. We both loved to go out dancing, We were both creative in our own ways, and we both had our own unique look....Me with my Goth style and you with your vintage thrift shop gorgeous fashionista style. We got a lot of attention. We loved to get ready to go out and dress up in our unique outfits. We were never risqué maybe but never risqué. I never thought that awful monster called jealousy would cross our path.

It was our very first fight. You were always complaining that Tom didn't want to do anything, and I think you were a little jealous that Jimmy always wanted to take me out. Jimmy was renting Tom's apartment temporarily. Tom was very proud of all of the work he put into fixing it up and Jimmy had helped him with some of the work. It was a very unique apartment and Tom liked to hang out there. Jimmy and I were excited because it was our first real date. We got all dressed up and Tom was just helping us enjoy the moment by taking pictures of us. I was very proud of the way we looked together. I was very happy in my relationship. You never really told me how you felt but you told people at work, and I found out from them. I confronted you about it but no matter what I said, you refused to see my side and stopped speaking to me anyway.

You judged me for enjoying that moment, but yet you spent an entire year and a half with someone who you felt the same way about and I never once judged you for it or got mad at you for it. You could've said anything to me. I would have talked with you about what was bothering you until it was resolved. I valued your friendship, but whenever you started dating someone, you would start to pull away again. You would change plans on me last minute and not include me in plans. I got tired of it and I confronted you. You just stopped speaking to me, because it was easier than talking about it. It seemed like every time I would experience things before you would get mad and you would never even try to understand, but when you were experiencing the same things, years later, I was always supportive of you. But you never appreciated that. You made assumptions about my feelings that were based on the "me" you knew years ago. You never even considered the fact that I had changed.

Two years after one of our "not speaking to each other" periods, you approached me at work and all was forgiven. At that moment I thought we would never part ways again. I thought we had finally come to an understanding and realized how much we valued our friendship, but a few years later, you turned and walked away with no explanation. You got married and had a child, and even though I went everywhere with you and your son and I always did what you wanted to do, you assumed that I was going to judge you on the serious life decision you were making at the time. You never even gave me a chance to react to your decision. You just shut me out completely.

I should have known by the fact that you could never actually talk to me in any real way whenever you had a conflict with me , that our friendship would not last. It has been years now and I will never forgive you now because I did nothing to deserve being shut out of your life so abruptly, but I will never forget you.

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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

This one's for you.

Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

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No matter what people say, it's possible to stay best friends forever.


My hometown best friends and I were truly inseparable in high school. Seriously, we spent every waking moment together. But when the time came for us to go away for college, each of us chose a different path. We became long distance best friends overnight. Three years later, despite the distance between us and the infrequent visits, we have managed to remain the closest of friends. So if you want to know the secrets to remaining friends with your hometown besties in college, you've come to the right place.

1. Send lots of text messages.

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Take a few minutes out of your day to text your best friends. A simple "how are you?" text can go a long way.

2. Talk on the phone as much as you can.

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We all know that texting is not the most effective means of communication, so try giving your bestie an old fashioned ring on the phone whenever you can.

3. Surprise your friends with snail mail.

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Everyone loves getting little surprises in the mail. Sending your best friends a card for their birthday or face mask before finals in the mail is a simple way to say I love you and I'm cheering you on!

4. Plan to go home on the same weekends.

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Always be sure to let your hometown best friends know when you're planning to visit home. Chances are, they'll meet you there!

5. Make attending important life events a priority

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From birthdays and engagement parties to breakups and crises, it's imperative that you show up for your friends. Experiencing the ups and downs of life together will keep you closer than anything else.

6. Visit each other at college

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Trust me, visiting your friends at college is always worth it. You'll finally understand why your bff can't stop talking about that cute little coffee shop on the corner.

7. Make an effort to get to know their college friends.

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Making time to get to know your friend's friends will make all of your conversations easier. Plus, it's always nice to meet the new people in your best friend's life.

8. Take a fun trip together.

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Planning a fun trip together is an intentional way to spend time with your besties from high school, even if it's just for a weekend. This will give you plenty of time to catch up, and you'll make new memories while you're at it.

9. Share the details of your life with them.

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Never stop including your hometown friends the latest news and drama of your life. They are your biggest fans and lifelong supporters, so keep them in the loop.

10. Just show up when they need you.

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This is the ultimate rule of friendship. Just show up when your friends need you, and everything else will fall into place.

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