What are second chances?
Second chances are defined as giving a person who you care for another try to be with you. You are giving them another chance to be there for you, whether it is a friend, a sibling, family or even a parental figure. We give chances because we want these people to be in our lives. We had enjoyed their presence and we don't want anything to change. However, there are times when the reason we give people second chances is because we want them to be different; we desire them either mentally or emotionally. They were not there in the first place, yet something makes us want them. Hoping that this time it'll be different, they'll be different.
Why do we bother giving people chances? Why waste our time? Why put effort into something that ended for a reason? Why put effort into something that was never there?
There are sayings we all have heard and sometimes they are both true. Whether we accept it or not is up to us, the ones giving the second chances.
What this quotes means is that we are believing in a false hope when we allow people back into our lives that have hurt us. By accepting them back into our lives, we are allowing them to hurt us, so, in the end we are to blame for our sadness, our anger, and our pain. It is not them who holds all the faults, but we knew they had hurt us in the beginning and we allow the opportunity to do so again.
The second quote we see is that when we are giving second chances, we are putting time into a relationship that had not worked. Why are we bothering to fix something that was broke? It's like trying to fix a plate that has broken into hundreds of pieces and trying to put it together while cutting your fingers on the shards, yet we still insist to do so. There are thousands of more people in our lives that we have yet to get to know. Why stop you life for someone who stopped caring for you? There are many others who wish to know you, who wish to show you what a true person is. They wish to care for you. Stop trying to enact feelings in someone; we can not force someone to change and we can not force someone to love us.
And then there are those who do not deserve the chances we give them, yet, here are people who do deserve it. Like us, they wish to fix things; they want us to be in their lives, as well as be in ours. They realize the mistakes they had made, and they regret it. They wish they could change things, yet it's too late to go back into the past to change things. Sometimes things happen for a reason, and now they want to do everything they can in order to fix things. It's the main reason why when we give people second chances, we must remind ourselves if they are deserving of it. What have they done to earn the chance? Are you decideing to give them a second chance because you feel that it is right; that because of who they are to you, they deserve it? Those are all the wrong reasons, and we have to realize that we have to let people go whether we like it or not becuase these people will become toxic to us. We can not let everyone who has hurt us come back into our lives like nothing has happened. So when you give someone another chance, please take the time to really think about it.
