Charlie Shaw wrote an article for Thought Catalog titled “8 Things The Girls That Get Ignored By Guys Don’t Know (That Other Girls Do)”.
I was casually scrolling through my Twitter feed when I stumbled upon this gem that I think has some substantial value to it.
So, the following is the exact article with my own personal opinion shoved in as an attempt to represent the typical college girls’ side of things on this male-written article.
1. All girls look better without makeup.
Charlie Shaw: A rule of thumb: every girl who looks hot with makeup, looks even hotter without it. Guys are most aroused by a girl who wakes up next to them looking disheveled yet still hot. And all women deserve to know this; they deserve to know that we men take little (if any) notice of all the time and effort they spent painting their faces. It’s truly gratuitous, and I imagine costly too. Broke girls need to realize they can be less broke girls by simply cutting down on the makeup supply.
Me: That may be true. I’d like to think I’m prettier without makeup, but what you may ask is the overall purpose of us taking ten minutes to add a little makeup here or there? To feel more confident. I guarantee you most ladies want to look good for other ladies and not for guys. But beyond that, I know I personally put makeup on for added confidence. So what’s so wrong about giving yourself a little confidence boost? By no stretch of the imagination am I suggesting that we layer on the foundation and eyeliner. But I think a woman with confidence is more attractive than one that is self-conscious. Boys: focus on the effect of the makeup, not just the makeup itself.
2. Guys are aroused by girls who know what they want sexually.
CS: Women who slut-shame other women are making it really difficult for us guys. We don’t think women who enjoy sex are sluts; quite the opposite actually. But all the girl-on-girl slut-shaming has put an unwarranted stigma on women who are sure of themselves sexually. It’s forcing women who would normally be very vocal about their sexual preferences to act coy, and it’s unfortunate.
Me: When is it ever good to hold yourself back from anything normal and healthy? I personally wouldn’t go talking about my sexual desires to the next-door neighbor, but I generally agree with this one. Any woman that channels her self-consciousness onto a confident woman just wants everyone to be miserable with her. This is also known as not a good friend. Be sure of what you want and read “Sex: Do I Have Your Attention?” from last weeks paper for further discussion of this point.
3. When women get their nails done, we see nothing.
CS: It’s necessary to separate nails from makeup as the upkeep of manicures and pedicures is just about as costly as maintaining a collection of eyeshadows. Next time you ladies make a $40 manicure appointment, just remember: no man will notice.
Me: I don’t get my nails done, mostly because I don’t have much free time, but I think women that do however do so—again—to impress other women and to pamper themselves. Both are good enough reasons in my opinion, and most women I know are not under the false impression that any guy will take note. So I say keep it up if that’s your thing and news flash to the guys—we know you don’t care.
4. Playing hard-to-get doesn’t work on men.
CS: It’s just the luck of the draw that women are so weak in the face of the hard-to-get game. You girls make it so easy for us. But don’t assume the same is true for men, because it’s not. If a woman stops showing interest in us, we tend to proceed much more rationally than women do. Our interest naturally begins to wane, as we don’t want to waste our time.
Me: I’ve always thought that guys prefer a more hard-to-get approach than a throw-themselves-at-you approach, but maybe I fall under the “Girls That Get Ignored” category. Score. I think the indisputable fact is this: It’s not attractive to look desperate and if that means you have to force yourself to be a little more hard to get than you otherwise would be, then for God’s sake, DO IT. If you act like you don’t like the guy then obviously he’ll take a hint. But to me, that’s not playing hard to get—playing being the keyword. If you’re BEING hard to get then you’re unattainable, i.e. you’re ignoring the guy. But if you’re PLAYING hard to get then you’re not being annoyingly obvious that you are constantly day dreaming about the ways his eyes squint when he laughs. This may be the frightening truth, but not the best approach to getting a guy’s attention—unless of course you’re aiming for a restraining order.
5. Women don’t always have to dress up.
CS: We do like you in a sexy dress or skirt, but it’s entirely unnecessary to dress up all the time. Doing this just puts pressure on us to dress up, which we don’t enjoy. Most of the time we’d much prefer you slip into your sweats or yoga pants and come snuggle with us on the couch.
Me: Completely agree. My boyfriend puts it this way: If a girl looks good in a t-shirt and shorts, then she’s irrefutably attractive. Next?
6. If you’re not interested in sports, please don’t fake it.
CS: We’d much rather discuss sports with our boys anyway. And a girl who’s trying too hard to appear like she knows what she’s talking about when she mentions Peyton Manning’s field goal is a girl no man wants to be around. We can smell your insincerity from miles away. So please, just stop trying.
Me: This also. I used to be this girl and then I realized guys really don’t care about my opinion on Tim Duncan’s free throw percentage. So now I spend the better half of the first quarter talking about how adorable Marco Belinelli is and have a much better time.
7. Women can eat all they want.
CS: I hate seeing a woman deprive herself of food, especially when it’s done to either impress men or appear cute. Ladies, men find nothing less attractive. We would ALWAYS rather a heavier-set woman over a thinner one. In fact, truth be told, it’s hard for us guys not to fall in love with a chick who knows how to eat.
Me: #1: Please eat, ladies. If you don’t you’ll die. #2: Don’t drive people up the wall by bragging about the truckloads of chicken nuggets, gallons of Nutella, and pounds of Honey Butter Chicken Biscuits you ate last night. No one really cares, as long as you’re not dead (see #1).
8. Shoes: we don’t care.
CS: The amount of money women spend on shoes is alarming, and I’m surprised more people haven’t spoken up about it. When did it start being okay to charge upwards $3,000 for a pair of heels? Men don’t even know you’re wearing them! Seriously, we would have no idea if they didn’t make you taller than us. And speaking of which, if you go out with a man I recommend wearing your go-to heels on the first date; it’s a great way to gauge his insecurity level right off the bat.
Me: Shoes: I don’t care either. But most girls do and have every right to. Again, I hate to repeat myself three times, but shoe purchasing is another attempt to impress other girls. Sorry to be the one to break this to y’all, but our thoughts don’t always revolve around you! But thanks for taking the time to try to understand us when really we can be summed up into three sentences. We want to impress other girls. We are also of the human race and need things like food, sex, and reassurance. We sometimes want to impress guys by pretending we actually like wasting an hour watching SportsCenter, working out a little too much to fit into a tight dress, and putting on makeup; but most of the time we don’t really give a shit.
Thanks for playing!
Source: http://thoughtcatalog.com/charlie-shaw/2014/02/8-t...
