An Open Letter To Your Potential Significant Other
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An Open Letter To Your Potential Significant Other

Every relationship is different and that's OK.

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An Open Letter To Your Potential Significant Other

Let's be real, dating can be scary, but I've realized that dating is a worthwhile experience because even though you may not find your soulmate you may make a new friend, acquaintance or career partner. Dates are meant to be icebreaker events where a potential couple are having fun and getting to know each other. I've learned there are no rules to dating, but setting standards and boundaries is essential.

The guy or girl you are dating may not understand you definition of "dating" because some people date casually which involves being less committed to a person or only being sexually involved with each other. When a guy or girl asks "what do you want from me?" you better tell them the honest truth, especially in the beginning phase of dating this person. There will be many misunderstandings and conflicts that will arise because a person didn't let his of her date know that they wanted a serious relationship.

Men are hunters by nature, which means that most of the time ladies will not have to put much effort into staying in contact, but that's only valid if the guy is really interested in you. Vice versa, ladies aren't meant to just be pursued, which means we have to put some effort into letting the guy know that we like them.

There's a major issue that I've experiences as do other women: our definition of our relationship is invalid. Dating is a process, which everyone dates differently, maybe one couple has only dated a year before getting married and another couple has dated as long as eights years without the thought of getting married at the moment. And you know what, under both of these circumstances, it's OK because the couple has complete control over their relationship.

During the awkward phase of dating, aka "talking," lasts typically a couple months where two people are participating in couple-like activities, but do not claim being in a romantic relationship. Ladies and gentleman: if you are stuck in the talking phase more than six months, your bae has no real intention on courting you. "Talking" is a period where a lot of confusion can take place, when we're not really committed to a person, but we will partake in activities that prove otherwise.

I suggest if you really like someone and is interested in being romantically involved with him or her, you both can stay friends until you have reached a point where you both realize that you want to be in a actual relationship.

When is a reasonable time to start having sex with your partner during your relationship? There's no exact time frame it just depends on how comfortable the couple is with their relationship. The 90-day wait period may be enough time for some people to have sex with their partners but there are also people who wait up to two years until having sexual intercourse. Who says you can't have sex before you reach the 90-day stage in your relationship? No one. Do what suits you and your partner. Most importantly, dating is meant to really learn about whether that person is right for you.


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