To my future Sister-in-law,
Now, I know I may not know you yet, but I already know what a strong and incredible woman you are. My brother is the one with whom I grew up doing everything. He’s the one with whom I ran around outside for hours when we were little. He’s the one that was there when I rode my bike without the training wheels for the first time. He was the one in the backseat with me who made time go faster on the long family road trips. He was the one with whom I stole extra cookies when mom and dad weren’t looking. My little brother has been my person and partner-in-crime for my entire life, and the day that you two get married is the day that I hand him off to you. That’s the day you officially become his first priority. While this will be an incredibly hard day for me, it’s also going to be one of the very best days. It will be the day that changes his life for the better forever.
I hope you fully appreciate and understand him. I’m sure you already know he's one of the sweetest, most caring, and genuine men you will ever meet. There are so many girls who haven't truly appreciated him in the past. All those times he was “friendzoned,” or was told he wasn’t good enough to have the girl he was after, were all worth it because it brought him to you.
I hope you know all of his quirks, and love him for each one of them. The way he doesn’t like his food to touch, or the fact that he hates tomatoes, but still loves ketchup. There are definitely things he will need to work on, and you will have things, too. Always remember that with marriage comes learning and sharing. Sharing a life with someone also means being with them through the good, the bad, and the ugly. While I’m sure you’ll have plenty of disagreements, make sure that you never go to bed angry. You never know what the next day will hold, and nothing is guaranteed. Marriage is also about compromise. Even when there's something he does that angers you beyond belief, forgive him. Just as he will forgive you when you do something that is maddening to him.
I am trusting you with his heart, and I expect you to take care of it. You two are going to be making vows to each other, to stand by one another through all the highs and lows of life. These are the most precious of promises that you will ever make.
He will treat you like a princess, and he will never leave your side. He's always been the guy that watched his friends in relationships, and wondered why they put up with the way their partner treated them. He always said, time and time again, “Why does he/she put up with them? They deserve so much better. It’s so frustrating.” He has been waiting for you all his life, and has always been preparing to treat whoever he ended up with like the princess she is.
He's a man of faith. God always comes first in his life, and I hope you both continue to push each other to keep strengthening your faith as you go through life together.
He will be a family man. When you have kids, he’s going to be the best dad. He has always been good with kids, and his family comes first with him. Our family is closer than most, and I have no doubt he will carry that into the family you make together. I can’t wait to have a sister-in-law and finally have someone with whom to team up on my brother.
I am so excited to find out who you are, and to see how happy you’ll make my little brother.
All my love,
His big sister
