Chances are, something is bothering you. Something has compromised your value system. There is a feeling that you cannot shake until you have reached your boiling point and there are going to be some not nice words said. And that is really unfortunate, because somewhere down the line, someone told you to stifle your inner fire. They told you that your opinion or your feelings or your ideas--well, they don't matter. Girls are awesome and full of emotion. Therefore, emotion is awesome.
Today I am here to tell you that you don't have to sacrifice yourself to make someone else feel better. You are you, and you do not have to apologize to anyone but God for being you. If something is bothering you, let someone know. If you have this amazing idea, share it with someone who will work with you to help you make that idea turn into a reality. Sometimes everyone struggles with this, but you can, in fact, trust people.
Now, that's not to say you'll have to along the way in figuring out who those people are. But some of the greatest lessons you will learn involve when to say goodbye. It is hard, I know. The people you associate yourself with can make or break you. If you've tried opening up to someone who just isn't getting it, you don't have to continue. That would be like getting a horrible haircut from a stylist, but continuing to go back for more because you would feel bad to stop.
Maybe you feel led to keep your feelings inside because, historically, that has been the norm. Well, in my best Michelle Dobyne voice, not today! As Dr. Seuss once said, "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. You don't have to carry the burden of internalizing every emotion you have. The feelings police are not going to come banging on your door to take you away. Everyone has feelings, and we are not all the same.
If you are going through a rough patch in life, let someone know. You are not going to be committed.
If you want to speak out against child abuse, call DSS. You will not be put on a hit list.
If you want to tell someone that they really bother you, do it.
If you realize that that someone is no longer special, do something about it.
My mom always told me that no one can make you inferior without your consent. That is a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt, so it must have some truth! If you take anything from this article, please remember three things.
Do not apologize for being you.
Be wise in choosing who you trust.
You don't owe anyone anything.
