Friendships are truly a blessing. My mother always says that you will encounter many “here and there” friends, but at the end you will only have one maybe two good friends. I'm not a people person, and I try to choose my friends carefully, but sometimes you just have to encounter those friends that were never really a friend.

Dear friend who failed at being a friend:

We often saw good times, had so much fun hanging out, and had long talks about future goals. I thought you were on my team, but clearly you only cared about yourself. I didn't see it at first, but eventually I saw that you didn't understand what a friendship was. We tried so many times to make it work, but it couldn't be.

Often times I thought that something was wrong with me, that I did not have the “right” qualities to be a good friend, but now that I think about it…it was never me…it was you. Any type of relationship that you enter requires 100 percent effort from both sides. But in my case, I guess I gave 100 percent and you gave 5 percent.

No friendship is perfect, but it does require some key components such as respect, loyalty, and of course, honesty, but those seem to be unknown to you. I have sacrificed so much to make the friendship work, sacrifices that you probably would never do for me.

But it is okay, because some people are only here for a season and some are going to stick with you through all the seasons. I am okay with you just being a seasonal friend. Now that your season is over, I need to let you go. As terrible of a friend you were, you taught me some qualities that I know I want in a friend.

I want someone who listens, who cares, who can laugh with me until I am blue in the face; someone who will go on adventures with me at 2 a.m., and someone who will stick with me through all the seasons, not when it is convenient for them. I want some who cares about friendships just as much as I do, and most definitely will not lie to me.

I am not mad or bitter, I am simply thanking you for being a terrible friend to me, because without you then I would not have met some of the friends that I have today. Because of you, I am more humble and grateful when good people walk into my life and actually have my best interest at heart.

I am forever grateful that you betrayed me, lied to me, and disregarded me so that I can be a better person. It was an unfortunate of how I became a better person, but thank you.

Send my love to the next friend that you fail.

Sincerely,

A good friend that really tried.