Dear Ex-“Love-of-my-life”,
We were both kind of silly to think that our relationship was going to last forever. We were young and dumb and now looking back, it was just a relationship that was supposed to mean a lot in the present but the future could never be an option. I do want to say that I’m sorry. Now, I’m not saying I apologize for everything you ever wanted me to apologize for, but overall I’m sorry for all the little times I got on your case or the times I picked fights with you over basically nothing. I was in the wrong and finally, months after the explosion of our breakup, I own up to all of my wrongs.
I think we both realized from an early start that we weren’t necessarily “good” for each other. I do think that we are both very good people and we always had good intentions, but when it came to being with each other, good is not the word I would use. We were constantly at each other’s throats, picking fights just because we needed some life in the relationship. It’s so messed up looking back at it, and it seemed like we just wasted each other’s time. We couldn’t seem to love each other the way we should’ve and that just happened to be our downfall. For so many years we were on and off, deciding when we loved each other and when we didn’t. Those years taught me more about myself than I would’ve ever imagined. I learned what I wanted, needed and didn’t ever want again in a relationship.
I learned that trust was the major component and the most necessary piece of any relationship. Trust was the one thing we lacked completely. I never trusted you, and you never trusted me, which resulted in a toxic scene. We never learned how to fully trust each other. I discovered that the little things mattered the most. I’m still thankful to you for all the times you brought me flowers after you got out of work and the times I forced you to choose our date for the week. Most importantly, I realized that being best friends with the person you’re dating is the best part of being in a relationship in the first place.
I just want to let you know I don’t regret any of the wonderful memories we made and even though we are both on completely different paths now, you are still a very big part of my past. I do regret every time I fought with you or made you feel worthless because I really never meant it. I no longer have any feelings for you I can honestly say, but nonetheless I still wish you the best in life and hope you find “the one”.
Sincerely,
Your ex
