An Open Letter To My Ex-Girlfriend's New Boyfriend

An Open Letter To My Ex-Girlfriend's New Boyfriend

Filled with the warmest and most positive regards.

To the New Boyfriend,

You probably didn't think you'd ever have to read one of these, and frankly I never thought I'd be writing one of these, but there are a few things that I felt like I needed to get off my chest as you are the new object of my ex-girlfriend's affection. We have a quite a bit in common, you and I—we both have worlds widely shaken by the same incredible woman. But, since she has chosen you as the man to replace me, I wanted to give you some pointers so that she never has to go through a break up again in her life. I think that we can both agree that she doesn't deserve to experience any pain.

You are about to fall deeply, indescribably, madly in love with the most radical, life changing woman in the entire world. From her smile, her hair, her scent, her softness, her voice...everything about her is about to change your entire life. Don't be afraid to tell her how scared you are of these new feelings, how intense you suddenly feel for her. She loves hearing that. It will make her fall hard for you, too.

She has a lot of anxieties, and even though many of them don't make sense to you, they have deep rooted fear inside of her soul. Be understanding and loving and patient with her anxiety. It's not going to go away, but it will endear you to all ends.

You'll have to kill all of the spiders and bugs, open new jars for her, and reach things from the top shelf even if you aren't that much taller than her. Don't let this annoy you. She relies upon you because she trusts you.

She likes animals, so take her places where she can see them, i.e. zoos, pet stores, dog parks... Let her touch any animal she wants. They seem drawn to her kind spirit.

Learn how to cook for her. She will never stop loving you if you can cook delicious meals for her.

Always give her the aux cord. She has the most beautiful voice in the world and I promise you'll never hear music the same when listening to her harmonize with the radio.

Take her dancing. She'll try to fight back and say she's a terrible dancer, but the truth is that she loves to dress up and do her hair and makeup and she looks damn good out on dance floor. Give yourself a good reason to show her off; you have the most beautiful woman in the world on your arm.

Let her take pictures of you. She spent a lot of money on that fancy Canon, so give her excuses to use it. Take her on adventures to grocery stores and beaches and parks and tell her to make sure she brings that camera of hers. Tell her how much you love her art. She is beyond talented.

Halloween is her favorite holiday, so make sure you spend more time celebrating it than any other holiday. She'll love you for that, I promise. Take her on hay rides and pumpkin adventures and corn mazes and to haunted houses and creepy abandoned buildings and scary movies year round if you can. Keep the child in her alive with excitement.

Stay close to home with her. She doesn't do distance well because she forgets how much you love her when she doesn't see you for a few days. It's not her fault, it's just how she is wired. You have to remind her every day that she is your whole world. Don't miss a single day.

If you can do all of these things for her, and even more...I do not have a doubt in my mind that you will be everything that I never was for her. You will be her knight in shining armor, the man of her dreams. Please make as many happy memories with her as you can. Never forget how lucky you are to have her. I wish the two of you endless happiness and love.

With the most wamest of wishes,

Her ex-girlfriend.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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From One Nerd To Another

My contemplation of the complexities between different forms of art.


Aside from reading Guy Harrison's guide to eliminating scientific ignorance called, "At Least Know This: Essential Science to Enhance Your Life" and, "The Breakthrough: Immunotherapy and the Race to Cure Cancer" by Charles Graeber, an informative and emotional historical account explaining the potential use of our own immune systems to cure cancer, I read articles and worked on my own writing in order to keep learning while enjoying my winter break back in December. I also took a trip to the Guggenheim Museum.

I wish I was artistic. Generally, I walk through museums in awe of what artists can do. The colors and dainty details simultaneously inspire me and remind me of what little talent I posses holding a paintbrush. Walking through the Guggenheim was no exception. Most of the pieces are done by Hilma af Klint, a 20th-century Swedish artist expressing her beliefs and curiosity about the universe through her abstract painting. I was mostly at the exhibit to appease my mom (a K - 8th-grade art teacher), but as we continued to look at each piece and read their descriptions, I slowly began to appreciate them and their underlying meanings.

I like writing that integrates symbols, double meanings, and metaphors into its message because I think that the best works of art are the ones that have to be sought after. If the writer simply tells you exactly what they were thinking and how their words should be interpreted, there's no room for imagination. An unpopular opinion in high school was that reading "The Scarlet Letter" by Nathaniel Hawthorne was fun. Well, I thought it was. At the beginning of the book, there's a scene where Hawthorne describes a wild rosebush that sits just outside of the community prison. As you read, you are free to decide whether it's an image of morality, the last taste of freedom and natural beauty for criminals walking toward their doom, or a symbol of the relationship between the Puritans with their prison-like expectations and Hester, the main character, who blossoms into herself throughout the novel. Whichever one you think it is doesn't matter, the point is that the rosebush can symbolize whatever you want it to. It's the same with paintings - they can be interpreted however you want them to be.

As we walked through the building, its spiral design leading us further and further upwards, we were able to catch glimpses of af Klint's life through the strokes of her brush. My favorite of her collections was one titled, "Evolution." As a science nerd myself, the idea that the story of our existence was being incorporated into art intrigued me. One piece represented the eras of geological time through her use of spirals and snails colored abstractly. She clued you into the story she was telling by using different colors and tones to represent different periods. It felt like reading "The Scarlet Letter" and my biology textbook at the same time. Maybe that sounds like the worst thing ever, but to me it was heaven. Art isn't just art and science isn't just science. Aspects of different studies coexist and join together to form something amazing that will speak to even the most untalented patron walking through the museum halls.

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