An Open Letter To My Ex-Girlfriend's New Boyfriend

An Open Letter To My Ex-Girlfriend's New Boyfriend

Filled with the warmest and most positive regards.

To the New Boyfriend,

You probably didn't think you'd ever have to read one of these, and frankly I never thought I'd be writing one of these, but there are a few things that I felt like I needed to get off my chest as you are the new object of my ex-girlfriend's affection. We have a quite a bit in common, you and I—we both have worlds widely shaken by the same incredible woman. But, since she has chosen you as the man to replace me, I wanted to give you some pointers so that she never has to go through a break up again in her life. I think that we can both agree that she doesn't deserve to experience any pain.

You are about to fall deeply, indescribably, madly in love with the most radical, life changing woman in the entire world. From her smile, her hair, her scent, her softness, her voice...everything about her is about to change your entire life. Don't be afraid to tell her how scared you are of these new feelings, how intense you suddenly feel for her. She loves hearing that. It will make her fall hard for you, too.

She has a lot of anxieties, and even though many of them don't make sense to you, they have deep rooted fear inside of her soul. Be understanding and loving and patient with her anxiety. It's not going to go away, but it will endear you to all ends.

You'll have to kill all of the spiders and bugs, open new jars for her, and reach things from the top shelf even if you aren't that much taller than her. Don't let this annoy you. She relies upon you because she trusts you.

She likes animals, so take her places where she can see them, i.e. zoos, pet stores, dog parks... Let her touch any animal she wants. They seem drawn to her kind spirit.

Learn how to cook for her. She will never stop loving you if you can cook delicious meals for her.

Always give her the aux cord. She has the most beautiful voice in the world and I promise you'll never hear music the same when listening to her harmonize with the radio.

Take her dancing. She'll try to fight back and say she's a terrible dancer, but the truth is that she loves to dress up and do her hair and makeup and she looks damn good out on dance floor. Give yourself a good reason to show her off; you have the most beautiful woman in the world on your arm.

Let her take pictures of you. She spent a lot of money on that fancy Canon, so give her excuses to use it. Take her on adventures to grocery stores and beaches and parks and tell her to make sure she brings that camera of hers. Tell her how much you love her art. She is beyond talented.

Halloween is her favorite holiday, so make sure you spend more time celebrating it than any other holiday. She'll love you for that, I promise. Take her on hay rides and pumpkin adventures and corn mazes and to haunted houses and creepy abandoned buildings and scary movies year round if you can. Keep the child in her alive with excitement.

Stay close to home with her. She doesn't do distance well because she forgets how much you love her when she doesn't see you for a few days. It's not her fault, it's just how she is wired. You have to remind her every day that she is your whole world. Don't miss a single day.

If you can do all of these things for her, and even more...I do not have a doubt in my mind that you will be everything that I never was for her. You will be her knight in shining armor, the man of her dreams. Please make as many happy memories with her as you can. Never forget how lucky you are to have her. I wish the two of you endless happiness and love.

With the most wamest of wishes,

Her ex-girlfriend.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Bart Starr passed away and NFL players, coaches, and fans all mourn the loss of the Packer legend, but his life and career will live on in hearts of Packer nation forever.


Bart Starr passed away at the age of 85 in Birmingham, Alabama. The NFL lost a great player. The Green Bay Packers lost a hero. And, the world lost a true gentleman. Starr's legacy has surpassed his accomplishments on the gridiron. He inspired not only his peers but the generations that have come after him. He is — and always — will be remembered as a Hall of Famer, a champion, and a Packer.

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Bart Starr's resume is rivaled by few in NFL history. He played in 10 postseason games and won 9 of them. He led the Packers to victory in Super Bowls I and II and won the MVP award in both games. He was the MVP of the league in 1966 and was named to the NFL All-Decade Team of the 1960s. The Packers retired his number 15 and Starr has been inducted into the Packers and Pro Football Hall of Fame.

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One of Starr's last visits to Lambeau field was on a cold November night in 2015. Starr and his wife attended a ceremony in which the Packers retired Brett Favre's jersey number. Starr was the perfect personification of what it meant to be a Packer. His most heroic moment came in the 1967 NFL Championship Game. The Ice Bowl came down to a third and goal in Lambeau Field's south endzone against the Dallas Cowboys. Starr came to the sidelines and bravely told Vince Lombardi that he can sneak it in for a game-winning touchdown. Lombardi then replied, "Run it, and let's get the hell out of here." Starr ran a quarterback sneak for the game-winner and the Packers were off to Super Bowl II. Without Starr, Green Bay would not have won a second straight Super Bowl. His leadership in big game moments will live with Packers fans for a lifetime.

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Starr leaves behind his wife Cherry, his son, and three granddaughters. Packers fans will have a tight grip on the memories Bart Starr and the 60s teams created. Starr left behind a template for being a Green Bay Packer. He also left a template for being a good man and a gentleman of the game of football. He was a competitor and a leader. Packer nation mourns for the loss of one of the finest human beings the game has seen.

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