To all my fellow girls who need to get over it,
This letter is for all the girls who somehow got stuck along the way, hung up on an irrelevant boy, and somehow can't find the direction, or the strength, or enough reasons to get over it. We've all been there, there is no denying it. You hear it constantly from your friends, all of the 'Why are you still talking about it him?' questions or 'Why do you still care?' and you know what, that's the million dollar question. You seriously wish you could answer the question of why you still care, why you still think about it, why you have not gotten over it yet.
Well guess what, you still care and that's OK, because we're all human and all have emotions (although for some men it's still highly debatable). There are some people you cross paths with in life, either for a short period of time or some who stay for awhile, who have an impact on your life that you can't explain. You don't understand it yourself and don't understand why they resonate with you so strongly. It all starts out as something, and just as you were OK when things started, you will be OK when things end.
What you need to know is, if that person you care about so much doesn't put in effort to be in your life, you need to get over it. And not saying you're 'over it' until the weekend when you drunk text or Snapchat him, I mean get over him until you're as close to being back to your regular self as possible. Because let's face, anyone with such an impact on our lives will sometimes take a little piece of us with them, that we have to learn to patch up. And the way you patch up that piece is within yourself and knowing you are the only person who can save yourself.
For whatever reason you're hung up on him, the list can be endless. You're not going to always have all the answers to why things ended, the truth of your relationship, or the closure you may think you need. Life doesn't give you a handbook of answers and half the time life doesn't make sense, which is when you put it in the past. You need to learn to let it go, start a new chapter and move on. You need to realize that the good times you had together don't cancel out the bad. You need to realize that the scenarios and memories you consistently play back in your head are not a once in a lifetime thing, and you will meet someone else who will put those so called 'good memories' to shame.
So to the girls that are struggling with a break-up, the ones who get screwed over, the girls who care too much about a silly boy who doesn't deserve them, seriously, get over it, and I mean that in the nicest way possible. They aren't worth your time, conversations, energy or late night thoughts. Just think, at one point in your life you didn't know them. You once lived life every single day without them and you can live without them again. You don't have to hate them or regret it, because how could you regret something you once wanted? You just need to stop hanging on and accept what you can't change, because that is the only way you will be able to have a new beginning. Everything takes time, but you're wasting yours if you don't get over it.
Know you are not alone,
A girl who's over it
