It's Amazing To Feel Yourself Change When You Start Bettering Yourself

It's Amazing To Feel Yourself Change When You Start Bettering Yourself

Be patient

I have been a little bit more selfish over the past year or two. Why? Because I realized I was doing more for others than I was for myself. At the end of the day, you're the only person who can help to better yourself and give yourself that care you need and I learned we can't depend on other people to do that for us. Once I started to take a step back and look at the bigger picture, I saw what I needed to work on and what negativity I needed to cut from my life.

It's a long journey and change doesn't happen overnight, but I can honestly say that I'm proud of where I'm at right now and all the progress I have made. There are always going to be your good days and bad days, but it's up to us to turn those bad into good and make the best of those negative situations.

There were days where I was unmotivated and felt like I wasn't good enough. Instead of wallowing in it, I took those moments and used it to fuel my ambitions. I turned those negatives into positives and pushed myself to be the person I wanted to be. As much as you want to, you can't stay in that rut forever. You can feel sorry for yourself sometimes but at the end of the day, we have to get up, put a smile on our face, and get through it.

I see myself changing and I am so proud of myself and I'm loving who I am. Even in the past few months, I've seen a difference. All that effort that I put in is really starting to pay off. I have a list of goals that I want to accomplish. Every day I look at that list and tell myself that what I'm doing now will get me to where I want to be. I am going to cross off everything on that list. I'm going to accomplish everything. I'm going to be confident.

Don't lose focus and be patient. Start living life for you and love every minute of it.

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65 Truths College Students Need to Hear Right Now

Truth every college student needs to hear.

1. The best memories are ones you actually can remember.

2. God isn’t going to ask you if you were in a top-tier sorority or fraternity at the gates.

3. You failed a test, not your life.

4. Numbers don’t define you.

5. That includes the number you see that is your grade.

6. Also, how much you weigh.

7. As well as if you are a “7/10” on a so-called “hot scale.”

8. Or if you can bench press 200 lbs. (@ all the guys at the gym, please chill.)

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9. Innocence is nothing to be ashamed of.

10. Neither are mistakes.

11. But learn from your mistakes. Mistakes can be lessons, which can be the biggest blessing.

12. Your metabolism isn’t what it used to be and that is okay.

13. You may not always understand what God is doing, but I promise He has a plan.

14. Every person you meet is battling their own struggles.

15. Life isn’t always great moments.

16. But you have to walk through the forest to get to the mountain top.

17. Your heart isn’t damaged. It is temporarily broken but it will be fixed.

18. However, the only one who can fix a broken heart is the one who created it.

19. So a cute boy or hot girl can’t put the pieces back together.

20. Neither can ice cream.

21. But ice cream can totally help.

22. Stop texting your ex. He/She is your ex for a reason.

23. Loving Jesus means loving people.

24. Loving Jesus also means loving the image of Him in the mirror you see.

25. Stop hiding your emotions. Stop crying in the bathroom or behind a locked door. You have people in your life who care about you.

26. Suicide is never the answer.

27. Breathe in, breathe out.

28. Do you feel your heart pump? Do you feel the air exiting your body? That is a sign you are here for a purpose. Your life is no mistake.

29. Just because you doubt, doesn’t mean you don’t believe in Jesus.

30. However, when walking on the water scares you, look to Jesus and keep your eyes on Him.

31. If you have the opportunity to go to school go. There are young girls around the world who would do anything to sit at the desk you are complaining about.

32. Don’t pick a career based on money.

33. However, I promise you can use any passion or gift to serve a purpose bigger than yourself if you allow yourself to give it to the One who gave it to you.

34. You don’t need pretty prayers to please God.

35. Talk to Him like you are talking to a friend.

36. Look for the good in everyone.

37. That includes the mean girl who no one likes. Chances are she is mean for a reason. Someone was once mean to her. Kill her with kindness.

38. Pray to have the Lord’s eyes. See people with love.

39. Try to have the Lord’s hands, always be reaching out to others.

40. Each morning, pray to have the Lord’s feet and go where He calls you.

41. It is a bad day, not a bad life.

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42. You don’t need a six-pack to find a man who loves you.

43. You need a spouse who will be able to look at you when you are 80, and wrinkly and maybe a little chunky, and you need him to love you then. If he loves you for your body and your hair, I promise he doesn’t actually love you. Looks fade, but love is eternal. Find someone who loves you like Jesus.

44. Do some squats.

45. But squat so you feel good about yourself, not to attract the opposite sex.

46. You are never too old to find a new hobby.

47. You were beautiful before someone told you.

48. If you don’t know if you are in relationship or not, leave. You deserve clarity, not insecurity.

49. You deserve friendships that are mutual.

50. The best Friday nights are spent with a puppy and food. It is okay to not always be social.

51. Stop worrying about whether your crush will text you back.

52. Stop over analyzing everything in general.

53. Pray for your future spouse.

54. However, also pray for your future bridesmaids/groomsmen. Some of the most influential people you may have in your life you may not have even met yet.

55. Storms bring strength.

56. And storms bring rainbows if you are patient and observant.

57. Stop Pinteresting your dream life and start living it.

58. The Bible is actually extremely relatable. Open it up. Read it.

59. Romans 8:28 “and we know God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” God is on your team. He wants you to have moments of celebration. He has a purpose for you greater than your bad day.

60. Never forget what Jesus did for you on that cross. When he died for you, it was painful and brutal. It was ugly. It was love. Don’t let that truth ever become numb to you no matter how many times you have heard the story.

61. There is nothing wrong with carbs.

62. Study. And don’t wait for the night before.

63. Find someone who you can look up to.

64. Also, never forget that there is always someone looking up to you. Act like someone you would want your future children to be. Act in a way that reflects wisdom.

65. Smile more, you are loved by the one who hung the stars and painted the sea. He created puppies and carbs–yet still loves you more. That is something to celebrate.

College is tough and life is hard. You are going to have moments where all you want to do is celebrate life with your best friends, but you will also have moments where you just want to lock the door, ignore everyone, and have a good cry. Never forget that your worth comes from something greater than your Biology grade, and from Someone greater that the one who broke your heart.

You aren’t too cool for Christ in college. Christ is a necessity for you in your life. He can hold your hand during your heartbreaks and failures and celebrate with you when you get the text back or a passing grade in foreign language. He loves for you and cares for you more than your sorority or fraternity ever will.

So buy your books, do your homework, but never forget when you are walking to you 8:00 a.m. you regretfully signed up for, to look up. Look at the clouds and the sky and thank your creator that in a big big world with many beautiful things, He still loves our messy hearts even more. So this one is for the boys for the King. This life is for the One who laid down His life.

I promise college is more fun when you dance with your Savior. Follow His lead and let him take you on a journey where you can find your purpose. You may not know where you are going, but you do know who you are following.

So never forget that although classes may be hard, and your metabolism may be slowing down–God is still good. He turns our ashes into beauty and our trials into our testimony. Do life with your creator and I promise you that you will have more than you need.

Romans 8:28 “And we know God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”

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Hopefully I'm not the only one who does these things...

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Hello guys! My name is Terrion Newton and I am here to openly discuss my weird ass ways of living. For so long, I hid behind a closet, not really sharing my weird habits with the world. But a new day has come, and I am ready to expose THE TRUTH! You ready?

1. Using another soap bar before finishing my current one...

I have talked to a few of my friends about this... and I can admit that it is a little weird. So... I prefer bar soap over body wash, probably because of my weird habit now that I think about it. Normal people would probably wait until their bar soap is extremely small before they start to use another one right? Well, that isn't the case for me! I use it until it has reached a certain point, then I open another bar of soap, use that one until it has reached a specific point, then put them both together. Don't ask me why I do it, I DON'T EVEN HAVE AN EXPLANATION! It's just who I am, accept me or not.

2. I blow my nose for no reason...

I rarely get sick, HONESTLY. The last time I had a cold was freshmen year during the Christmas break, 2015. I feel that my immune system is THE SHIT; then again, I do take vitamins as often as I can so maybe that is why. Anyways, I blow my nose even when I do not feel mucus in it. Usually, I blow it in the mornings and before bedtime. I get the urge to do it, I don't like the thought of build up. I officially weird to you now? Ha! Well, there's more.

3. I crack my fingers and toes all throughout the day...

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4. When I listen to music alone, I skip back and forth in an open space...

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5. I don't brush my teeth...

Ha! You fucking thought! That would be gross! Ewww, imagine my breath. I actually take dental hygiene serious. I brush in the morning AND night; I also floss twice for my top and bottom teeth. SAY CHEESE!

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