Once you finally realize you are an alpha female, a few things will finally make sense to you. Like why your girlfriends may view you as a “man” or having a “male” mentality about things. Or why you focus intensely on your career. Or why you don’t put tons of emphasis on the need for male interaction. You enjoy male company, but if it conflicts with your goals or pushes your mental ideals beyond your comfort level, you’ve had enough. Goodbye!
You find solitude and peace in being alone with your own mind. Yet you still drive yourself crazy by the amount of things you have to get done. Having children? Yeah okay…like 20 years from now. Your goals, career and independence are your primary focus and you may view love, marriage and a baby carriage as something in the farfetched future…like your mid 30s or early 40s. Some people call you a feminist, when the truth is you’re just being you. Men tend to be quite intimidated by you or intrigued by the challenge of you. They can tell you are not into playing games or wasting time. However, when things get serious, only the chosen few catch your attention…1 out of 1000. You view your significant other as your partner, not your father, and you plan on building an empire with him not mooching off of his mullah. You march to the beat of your own drum and you need a partner willing to dance to the rhythm, not stop the music.
So what should an alpha female look for when she finally
decides to take dating seriously? Here are 3 tips to have a smooth transition
into the dating world:
1. Support
Look for a partner who will truly support you
through all of your goals and endeavors, even when his own may not be as “successful”
as yours. From my experience, when I dated men claiming to support me, I noticed
red flags when they finally realized I was serious about my shit. They never
truly respected my hustle and understood my work schedule. That let me know they
truly didn’t understand me or what they were getting themselves into. Any
man who becomes jealous of your career advancement and takes mental jabs or
cause distractions to throw you off of your game, is absolutely unacceptable. Pay
attention to the signs. Does he seem genuinely happy when you are successful at
something new? Does he truly support your new interests and goals even at the
expense of “not having enough time for him”? Does he make an effort to help you
complete these goals? All of these things are great characteristics of an ideal
partner.
2. Self-Efficient
In a relationship, we all validate each other in some form
or another. However, I have found a high majority of men go for women that
validate their position as THE man. That’s why most men go after certain types of women that are willing to continuously stroke his undeveloped ego . This same man will tell
you, you aren’t girlfriend material. You won’t understand this at first but he’s
telling you the truth, you’re not. You are partner material. You are an equal
and in order for any man to date you, he has to do the work to find himself, be
secure in who he is and confident in where he is going. He will want you around
as his partner to build with. He wants you to stand by his side, not be a
doormat for him to stand on to feel superior. You need a partner who appreciates
your validation but doesn’t need it to fulfill some portion of his ego or to
build his self-confidence. He’s got that all on his own.
3. The One
Watch out for the men who intrigue you with their strong, dominant,
fiery personalities. Sooner or later the
disagreements will ensue. As a woman, you may naturally find yourself trying to
put out the flames of intense disagreements, even at the expense of your own
comfort. That type of submission will be short lived when you realize he may
not be willing to do the same for you. Be careful of the man that has all of
the love to give and willing to do whatever you want whenever you want him to. At
some point, you may realize that he doesn’t have a strong enough back bone for
you and you will run over him with your dominant personality. Search for a man
who carries both of these traits. They provide balance, support, & they know when to lead but they have also mastered the art of following. You are looking for someone who can make plans. You spend all day directing others, helping everyone and at some point, that can be quite exhausting. Having a partner who can direct you, will provide some relief in your already hectic schedule. He will have no problem compromising and
allowing you to take the reins without feeling emasculated. You
will willingly submit to him because he has proven that he respects you and he
has demonstrated he’s a great leader for you.
Warning: Yes, you are a beautiful, confident and successful woman who deserves the best and the utmost respect. However, do not sabotage a great thing by thinking you are the queen of the world and all men must bow down to you. Reality check: you have flaws. Probably so many that you are unaware of so do not dismiss a man because he makes a mistake or doesn’t fit every single characteristic on your list. No one is perfect so be open to someone different from your picture perfect, ideal man. Accept that a man may come along and expose all of your flaws. Don’t run, embrace the reality. When you relax into something new and become vulnerable, great things can happen for you. Now go and embrace the dating world you amazing Alpha Female!
