We all have that one guy…you know the “almost” guy.
This guy’s the one that you met such a long time ago that you don’t even
remember how it happened. He was the one that came into your life when
you were with someone else, but it was okay because you started off as
friends—just how it was supposed to be.
However, the more you got to know him, the more you realized he meant a
little bit more than just a friend. He had qualities that your guy didn’t and there
was something very exciting about him; these were so exciting that you
wanted to see him more than the guy you were “supposed” to be with. So you
did.
You started making plans in hopes that you would run into him. You snap
chatted him more, texted him frequently, and you even liked more of his photos,
all in hopes that he would notice you. Whenever you saw him, your stomach
dropped a bit, because there was anticipation of what could possibly happen
between the two of you.
So you tried it. You ended things with your guy and you went in for the kill.
You put yourself out there and you know what? He did too. It turns out that
you weren’t crazy and he was actually into you too.
There was a problem though: while you were together something just wasn’t
right. The excitement was gone. There was not any more lust, just a boring
relationship.
Was it because you had the opportunity for him and you didn’t have to fight
anymore? Or was it because you knew that he actually wasn’t the one you
wanted; he was the one you “almost” wanted?
When things came to an end, you were able to realize that he just wasn’t
the right one for you. Yeah, you had a fun time together and you will share the
memories that you made. But in retrospect he was the guy that you “almost”
needed in your life.
Later on, he settled down with someone. You watched him be happy with her,
happier than he had ever been with you. But that made you happy, because
you knew that he could not be your “almost” guy anymore.
Except, there was something about their relationship that made you jealous.
You couldn’t put your finger on it, but the way they posed for pictures, went to
date parties and even studied in the library... it made you crazy and obsessive
because he was once, “almost” yours.
It was time to move on though, so you started to avoid the places that they
would go together, and started hanging out with new people in hopes that you
can “almost” be as happy as he was.
Being in college, makes it easy to go to parties, bars and meet people. So
you do You meet that new guy and it’s fun. You pose for those same pictures,
go to all the date parties, and now it’s you studying with him in the library. It
was your turn to be happy.
You think that everything is going to be better, but then you find out that your
“almost” guy and his girl break up. What is it that you’re feeling? The feeling
that he can “almost” be yours again?
So you find yourself in the same place you did two years ago — you’re with a
guy that makes you happy, but something’s just not right.
Your “almost” guy is in the back of your mind and you can’t get him out until
you “almost” try it again. It’s as if nothing has changed, and you are back to
reminiscing about everything that happened two years ago. So what do you
do?
Maybe then it wasn’t meant to be, but what’s not to say that with a little time
and distance it could come right back. He was “almost” yours once, and for
me, I see it as worth the risk. So you can let him slip away or take the chance
and see if it truly was timing, and if that once “almost” guy could actually be
the one.
The choice is yours.
