It has been a rough week here in America, my entire campus, my boyfriend’s campus, and most of Colorado. This has made me a suitcase full of anxiety. Believe it or not though the election was not the only thing on my mind this week. I started thinking about how much time we actually spend on technology. I find myself breaking it down to the classic argument of women versus men. It is the logistics of what makes us tick in relationships. Technology is toxic and it could be the start of many underlying problems in modern day couples.
Seems to me that I am not the only one that gets pretty fired up when I am not getting the attention I want. Men don’t like it just as much as women. I was talking to a male friend of mine and the one thing that seems to irritate men more than anything is when girls take the guys' phones and look into them. He said, “It seems to me that there is a huge amount of distrust this girl has towards me. It is also disrespectful and invasive of my privacy because I have nothing to hide. Also, a phone is personal, and how would it feel if we look through your stuff?” Although this makes sense to a male, girls don’t see it this way. In a way, it’s our version of the bedside table top drawer. Also, what do you have to hide? The thought process of a girl’s mind is, are you cheating on me? Whose nudes are you hiding? And why am I not a part of your life? I think both men and women are horribly inaccurate on both sides of the spectrum and very dramatic.
Also, another technological issue women seem to have with men is when they are playing video games or on their phone when we are looking for attention. Dear boys of the world, do not do this it is rude! I cannot stress this enough. Unless you are watching a cute puppy video or playing a video game that isn’t totally directed towards males, odds are we don’t want to see it. Most of us actually question as to why this is so cool to guys. To women, it’s more boring than watching grass grow. And if we are not participating in the actual game, imagine how boring it is to us. For this reason, we ask ourselves am I really that boring, do you really not care that much that you would rather do anything else than pay attention to me?
When asking males about this their response was generally that they don’t really look past the actual game. Guys are okay with other guys doing it so it must be okay around our significant other, right? Wrong. Refer to my paragraph above if you are still confused.
To be honest, I think we can all agree that both men and women need to get off of technology and just live a little more in the moment. You could be missing the first time she says I love you, or the perfect time they ask you to dance or a first date. Or that one significant moment that changed your relationship enough to move forward with it. After a week like this at least we can all agree on one thing, that we as Americans don’t always agree.
