My friends and I love to talk about love. We joke about anything from who will get married first to that creepy guy that tried to slide in our DMs. But if there is one thing that we talk about the most, it’s how confusing dating is as millennials in college. No longer are the days that boys pick up the phone and call you to ask you about your day. No longer are the days that guys make these grand romantic gestures. Now, we get hangouts, Snapchats and “Netflix and chill.” Imagine how much worse dating is when you despise so much of this new millennial dating.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve watched just about every romantic comedy imaginable with the movie "He’s Just Not That Into You" being no exception. Every girl dreams of that one guy, like Alex in the movie, realizing his mistake of letting you go and then dramatically showing up at your front door to tell you. Not only that, we hate to think of ourselves as a Gigi. The girl in the movie that overanalyzes everything a guy does and makes something out of nothing. We wonder why a certain guy tells us sweet things yet makes no actual effort. We want to think he’s scared of putting himself out there, but if we are honest with ourselves, we know that this movie speaks the truth: He’s just not that into you.

I for one want to clear up that I am no expert on guys by any means, but I have dated quite a few in college. And I want to share with you some things I’ve found to be true:

If a guy wants to be with you, he will make it happen.

Girls often wonder if a guy is really interested, if they made the right decision breaking up with a guy, etc. Well, from my experience, it’s simple. A guy that is interested will do whatever it takes to see you again. An ex will do whatever it takes to get you back if he really wants to. He is not going to sit around twiddling his thumbs hoping you decide to come back to him. If he wants you back, he’s going to tell you that.

In this crazy world of dating, we all want to be the exception, but truth be told, we can’t all be the exception!

We hear stories of women that are really interested in a guy but then find out he’s not only showing interest in them but two or three other girls. In the world of the “rule” girls, we do not end up with this guy. As exceptions, however, he finds out what he’s missing, and he stops talking to those other girls. We want to believe we are the latter, but in most cases, if a guy is talking to more than one girl, he isn’t looking for anything serious with you. Maybe a fling but that’s about it.

When a guy tells you he doesn’t want a serious relationship, it’s not that he doesn’t want one in general. It’s that he doesn’t want one with you.

A guy may want all the perks of a relationship without the title and exclusivity, but he will never want to be anything more than “talking” with you. In this case, the guy is into you, just probably not the way you want him to be. A lot of boys in college want to have fun and not be tied down. I get that. You won’t always have this chance in life, so you might as well make the most of it. But as a girl that will never be satisfied with the no strings attached thing, it’s difficult to find a guy in college that wants what I want.

For every heartbreak, you learn a great lesson.

I have had my fair share of heartbreak, but I’ve learned so much through it. For one, some guys will never be satisfied no matter how hard you try. Even when you put your heart and soul in a relationship, some guys will never appreciate how you care for them. In turn, they take you for granted and then you get tired of it all. You care so much for this person but realize the relationship is toxic if you stay. Of all the lessons I’ve learned in life, this one by far is the most important though: Actions speak louder than words. Is this guy intentional with his time with you? Does he make you a priority? Does he make you feel special? These are the questions you should be asking yourself. What his actions are will speak volumes in comparison to what he says.

Good things come to those who wait.

I truly believe there is a person for everyone. Just because one guy is not into you, doesn’t mean that is the case with all of them. It just means you aren’t that particular one’s cup of tea. Eventually, a guy will come along that is better for you than the other ones. A guy that will love every second of being with you and will help you grow in ways you didn’t think you could. I beg you don’t look for a temporary fix. These guys that give you attention but don’t want anything meaningful are going to make you feel more lonely than you already feel. Instead, wait for the guy that will change your life. The kind of guy that could become your significant other AND best friend. Don’t be another Gigi. Know your worth, and don’t settle for anything less than the best.