You know who I’m talking about, she’s quiet and reserved in a room full of people. She’d rather listen than be the center of attention. She’s constantly storing information away for later; she remembers your favorite movie and how you like your eggs (sunny side up), But as soon as you get in the car to leave, she’s on. The words are coming out of her mouth a mile a minute and as soon as you get a word in, she cuts you off cause her favorite part in the song is about to be on. She’s someone who doesn’t mind the silence but can drink with the rest of them. When she’s talking about something she loves her eyes light up, and her voice gets louder.
When you met her you weren’t quite sure what you were getting yourself into. She was always nice, although a little intimidating. At least ,until she finally let loose, and despite what you think it isn’t easy for her to do. We live in a world that celebrates the individual until it’s not convenient. She has seen her fair share of unacceptance. People who just glance over her, or tell her she talks too loud. She’s had people tell her she was too much to handle, and that she just wasn’t good enough. It’s taken her a long time to accept the fact that she’s a little different, and if you’re lucky enough she’ll let you in.
Despite your constant reassurance, she’s always a little nervous that someone isn’t going to like her. You try telling people she really isn’t this quiet, but nobody ever really believes you. Nobody would believe that the mild-mannered, politely smiling, quiet wall flower would be the same girl who sings karaoke sober, leaves her phone number for waiters, and stands up through the sun roof shouting Sam Hunts “House party.” She’s your favorite secret, and after a while you don’t mind that her personality is so diverse. It stops bothering you that she doesn’t like calling businesses on the phone, or asking someone a question. You get used to all the shouting and laughing and constant talking.
The best advice I can give you is to just let her do what she’s going to do. Don’t push her to be more talkative in a crowd of strangers, and don’t roll your eyes when she can’t seem to stop talking. Love her when she’s quiet and love her when she’s borderline obnoxious. She’ll treat you better than you know. She’s a good time out and a relaxing night in. She is the best of both worlds, and how lucky are you to get a front row seat to both? Most people will just glance over her at first; write her off as nothing special. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter what other people think, she is yours and you are hers, so let her talk your ear off when you’re lying in bed at night, let her stare out the window and be alone with her thoughts, and never forget how lucky you are to love and be loved by the outgoing shy girl.
