Women are designed differently than men. We are wired to seek connection, attachment and emotional and physical bonding and love. We often feel deeper and more powerfully than men. We are more communicative, emotional and in touch with our senses and feelings. We are not as sex driven, and don't exactly enjoy one night stands. We get ahead of ourselves, invest in men quicker than we should and give more to those around us in a shorter period of time.

Relationships swallow us whole, and spit us out when they're over. It's moving on and becoming a better person that is the most difficult part. Re- shaping our thoughts, working on ourselves and becoming independent again can be tricky.

This is for all the girls who are struggling to be alone, and confused of what they want. This it to the girls who are adapting to independence. This is to the girls who think being in a relationship is better because that is not always the case. This is also for the girls looking for a relationship before they are truly ready; before they have had enough time to sharpen themselves and spend time alone. There are benefits and down falls to the single life and the relationship life. However, when you let a person or a relationship dictate your happiness and attitude towards life, you've messed up, and it might be time to be adjust your views.

Believe that you are the most beautifully unique and wonderful person.

Nobody replicates you. Celebrate your uniqueness; the dimples when you smile, your skin, hair and eye color. Your personality, characteristics and morals. Your smile when you laugh, your heart when you cry, your touch when you're passionate and the energy you radiate. The way you see life, the things you're grateful for. The experiences you've had, and the life you seek to fulfill. Your various hopes, dreams and aspirations. Your beliefs, and outlook on life. The things that make you laugh or cry. Notice the little things, and be appreciative of everything you have been given. You are you, and that's what makes you one of a kind. The right person will fall in love with every part of you, they will not make you think you have to change because you're not enough. The right person will think your flaws are gorgeous, and your insecurities are silly. The right person will make you feel confident, and lift you up.

If you don't begin to realize the many things you have to offer and just how great you are, then nobody else will. You are not ready for a relationship until you realize these things about yourself first, before you give someone else the chance.

You must be confident and hold yourself to high standards.

Be proud, be confident and most importantly, be you. Any relationship you encounter will not prosper if you start off dishonest. Be true to yourself and others, recognize your grace, and realize that anybody who wants to pursue you, should be thankful for the opportunity. Tell yourself that you deserve greatness because your presence is a blessing, and whomever takes an interest in you, must realize this too. You need to hold yourself to very high standards, and only accept adequate applicants. Appreciate every part of you. You are you, nobody can change that. Don't mold to anyones expectations. Being single and finding time to truly understand your the blessings you have been given is a proccess, but is extremely self fulfilling.

Things will work out how and when they are supposed to.

There is no sense in trying to look for a relationship before you're ready. There is never any rush. Any relationship that is forced or happens too quickly, will not work out. Be alone and be happy. Trying to put pieces together that you know deep down will never work, is your way of filling an empty void. But, there should be no void that needs filling if you're truly and completely happy with the way your life is going. Take yourself out of relationship land, and put yourself in the real world. Where there are many things that can provide you happiness outside of one single person.

You attract what you release.

If you mope around being depressed, searching for someone who could be your anti depressant, giving off a lonely, "I want a boyfriend" vibe, you're not going to meet someone who is right for you and anybody you meet will only run the opposite direction. If you continue to put bad in to the world, you will receive the same in return. Instead, release positive and happy energy, be confident and be content. Be busy with school, activities and friends. Put your time and energy in to something worth it. Once this is accomplished, the world will send more happiness and good your way. Focus on being the best person you can be, independent, intelligent and successful.

Settling is a waste of your time.

If you're looking for something perfect, why would you settle for less? Not only is this important because finding the right person is essential, but also because you deserve the best. You are an incredible person with a lot to offer, and anybody who falls short of this is not worthy of your time.

Do not settle for the guy who only hits you up at 3 a.m.

Do not settle for the guy that texts you and asks if you want to Netflix and chill before he's even taken you on a date.

Do not settle for the guy who blows you off when you have plans, or the guy that acts like everything is more important than you.

Don't settle for the guy who only, hits you up when he wants something.

Don't settle for the guy who's friends don't know about you.

Don't settle for the guys who string you along when really they're just looking for a good time.

All in all, don't settle for the guy who treats you poorly in any way.

Settle for someone great. Someone who treats you like the queen you are, who appreciates you in every way, shows you off, and brags about how lucky he is. The guy who introduces you to his parents, and pursues you as more than just another girl to sleep with. Settle for your best friend, the guy who makes you smile ear to ear and gives you the world.

But before you focus on any of that, focus on not settling with yourself when there are still things you need to work on. Don't settle for being unhappy, wishing you could meet someone, or depending on alcohol and rom coms to make you happy. Instead, focus on your mind, your body and your overall health to become the best person you can be. Achieve your goals and aspirations, work hard and be the person you aspire to be. When you put your time and effort in to other things, you will begin to feel much better about yourself and your life.

Independence is more rewarding.

Relationships are definitely not the key to success. Nor will they provide you with what you could provide yourself. Depending on someone for happiness is not a good idea. The only thing you need in life is yourself and inner happiness. The things you can achieve alone, the great heights you can reach, and the many good things you can do for you, far outweigh a relationship that is only temporarily fulfilling. If you are happy and independent, you will not need anybody. Get involved, be productive and hard working. Focus on your health and mind. Spend time with family and friends. Use independence as a new drug.

The best relationship is with yourself.

Spend time alone, get to know yourself and what you want in life. Learn about you, and focus on you. If you deeply understand your self, your wants and needs, your hopes and dreams, relationships will be more successful. Fall in love with your beauty and flaws on both the inside and out. Appreciate what God has given you, lift yourself up, and never forget to remind yourself that you are the best, and only gentlemen who treat you well deserve your heart.

These are the times to be single.

There is absolutely no reason to be in a relationship at this time in life. Some prefer relationships, but put things in to perspective. In the next five to 15 years, most of us will be married and tied down for life. So for now, go out with friends, and enjoy the single life while it lasts. Why do you really want a relationship when you can be having even more fun single? Being single allows you more time to spend with friends and family and work on different aspects of your life.

When you stop searching, it will find you.

When you're truly ready, and have improved both your mind and heart, you will find someone. When you forget that you were ever searching, you'll stumble upon a great treasure. When you get wrapped up in every day life and focus on yourself, someone will come along and it will work perfectly. He will sweep you off your feet. Although, this time around you will have learned many lessons. You will not depend on this person for satisfaction. You will continue being independent and happy with things outside of him, while also enjoying his company and creating a great relationship with someone you love. This way, your relationship will be stronger and healthier than ever.

If it is meant to be, it will naturally be.

There will come a time and a place when things are meant to be and will be. Things will be natural and not forced. You will have had time to be on your own, and discover yourself. Things with this person will beautifully fall in to place with out any effort given. This person will be your Prince Charming and he will fight for you. It will happen and you won't have to question anything. But, for now, it's time to be you. It's time to focus on you and be happy.

And always remember -- you don't need no man.