Now that summer has finally arrived, I have had the chance to catch up with some of my old friends from my hometown. It is so hard to keep close tabs on your friends when you all are going to different schools and share different interests. While I was talking to one of my closer friends, Cassie she really inspired me to write an article. Cassie is currently going through a very difficult yet common issue that our society has, divorce. Divorce amongst the people that have raised her and supported her throughout her whole life.

I do not know what it is about parents when their kids finally get out of the teen years and hit the big two zero. It just seems like every one of my friend's parents are spitting up as we all are soon to be wrapping up our last year of college. It is like we are trying to make and prepare a successful foundation for our own lives, so eventually we can become contributing members of society while, everything else around us seems to be crashing in a downwards spiral. Although, I personally have not experienced my parents getting divorced or separated but I only can imagine how Cassie must feel.

This is a divorce story as told by my friend Cassie Cosezo, who is currently going through what it seems to be the "divorce age" for our parents.

"When I was younger I absolutely adored Friday's. Friday was the day my dad and I would take our weekly adventure to this very yummy burger place about ten minutes from home. This may seem like it is not at all significant but to me it was. My dad and I would play the crane games with stuffed animals in them. Each time I would lose but it did not matter because I got spend time with my dad. Now, I do not ever see him. In fact, I have not seen him in about a week or two, only stopping by the house to eat or grab more clothes before heading back to his girlfriend’s house or heading to the bar.

My mom and I have a really great relationship. When I was away at college, it almost seemed like we were closer than ever, but when I really needed her the most she was never there. She was always out shopping or at her guy-friend’s house. I confronted her about their relationship and she lied to tell me that they were only friends and nothing more. Kind of hard to believe they are “nothing more” when she is deciding to move in with him and without asking assumes I’ll also live with them.

Do you know how incredibly awkward it is when your parents tell you they were looking to get a divorce more than seven years ago? You feel like at the most vulnerable time in your life, they truly just lied about everything. Of course, I can sort of understand why they did it but I think its worse how it is happening now."

I do not understand how parents could be almost so selfish. Parents deserve to have a life but they should not force their kids into a predicament where they would have to live with a stranger. Your parents just getting a divorce is only half the hassle, think about if your parents get remarried (god forbid) or like in this case they might get a new girlfriend or boyfriend. You could possibly have to move like Cassie, moving into another house with your parents new significant other means probably having to share a house with some other kids as well.

"A lot of people will look at this and say that at my age, I should be moved out of my own home and working and doing school in a dorm or an apartment. I have dealt with a lot of things with my home life that made me feel like if I wasn’t at home, that something bad would happen. I also struggled with a lot, mentally, and the stress of being away really hit me hard. So of course, I stayed and I commute.

The hardest thing that I think I had to deal with was the lying, the snooping around, and sometimes when I had to find things out from other people. For example, I had to find out my dad even had a girlfriend through Facebook. In fact, he blocked me from seeing it on facebook, but he keeps his facebook up on the home computer and I had to find it on his own timeline. It has been a few months, and I have yet to meet her. He hasn’t even mentioned it to me at all. Considering I am his only child, I feel that it’s something important to share but I could be wrong, I guess. My mom who is moving in with this man, almost made me move in by guilting me with material items like a bigger bed or a bigger closet. I have grown up knowing “Mom and Dad” so to move in with almost a complete stranger (also the house is in the middle of nowhere, far from work and my route to school) is something that I wasn’t giving into. In the matter of one week, my house was up for sale. The conversation started as getting things ready for the annual neighborhood yard sale and turned into picking and choosing what I wanted to bring to the “new house”. I decided to take this as a chance to “grow up”.

So here I am, trying to lift myself onto my own feet with my parents who have sort of disappeared out of no where. I’m getting my own apartment with my friend, I’m still working at the same job to afford rent and tuition, and most importantly I’m still attending school as a full-time and ½ student in order to graduate somewhat close to where I should be graduating."

If you have a friend in your twenty-something years of life, who has parents going through a divorce, please don’t brush that off into nothing. People get divorced all the time, and not saying that its easier as a child, but it's definitely not easier as an adult. It’s extremely frustrating, especially when you’re trying to start your life and the people who stand behind you have other things going on.