I think every girl has heard the expression actions speak louder than words. We are told this applies to guys, and if he says he cares he will show it. But somewhere along the way girls start to make up excuses as to why a guy doesn’t show it. I was one of those girls. I was seeing a guy who would tell me all the time how much he cared, but never showed it through his actions. Let’s call him Alex. Just like every other girl, I would make up excuses as to why he did this. After we stopped seeing each other, I met my current boyfriend. He taught me a very important lesson: if a guy cares he will show it through his actions.

Alex would sometimes take up to a day to respond to my texts, and just tell me he was too busy to text me back. But a text takes two seconds to respond, and if you care about someone you can make a few seconds to respond. My current boyfriend doesn’t take days to respond, he makes the few seconds in his day to text me. Alex would also tell me he was to busy to see me, and would spend time with just about everyone else before me. I was not a priority to him. My new boyfriend will move his work schedule around just so he can see me. That’s something Alex would never do. It's also the little things, like how I will catch my current boyfriend staring at me, and he will just smile and tell me how beautiful I am. It’s him getting me candy when we stop at the gas station. It's him just wanting to spend the day cuddled in bed with me instead of with his friends. Alex never made me feel as important as my current boyfriend does. And that’s when I realized it: any guy who says you are important to him will show it. That plain and simple, actions truly do speak louder than words.

So many girls make up excuses as to why he doesn’t make you feel important, but if he doesn’t show it, he doesn’t. We as girls need to stop making up excuses, and need to learn this lesson. Girls need to start expecting more from guys because the way Alex treated me was not okay.