When cutting it off someone, the worst thing to do is ghost them. What is ghosting? Ghosting is when a person gradually starts speaking to someone less and less, until one day it is zero contact and leaves person wondering what happened and what is wrong with them. Avoiding confrontation may seem like the best way out, but in the long run in can result in hard feelings. Being ghosted drive a person crazy! They are constantly checking their phone, hoping to see your name light up across your screen, they even give them you your own personal ringtone.
They check snapchat constantly, did he/she post a story? They check social media -- has/she posted? They look to see if you liked anyone's posts? Usually- the answer is YES.
Save yourself the drama of:
"What’s wrong?"
"Are we good?! I haven’t heard from you much:("
OR even the simple.....
“Hey you:)
Hey!!!
Two snapchats
Heyyyyyy?"
ALL within three hours.
If you don't know what say... Try one of these eight replies that may match your situation!
1. We're not ending because I lost feelings for you, we're ending because our relationship isn’t healthy. We're in different places in life, and we want different things.
2. I think you’re a great person and I really love hanging out with you, but I don’t see “us” going anywhere in the future.
3. The reason I have been distant is because I simply don’t want a relationship. It is nothing against you, I just want to be single. I hope you understand.
4. I want to hang out with my friends more and get to know a lot of different guys/girls. It is nothing against you, I’m just doing me right now. I hope you’re good with that!
5. You are jaw-droopingly handsome (or beautiful) and super sweet! But, I am not over my ex yet. When I kiss you, I still think of him/her. You deserve someone who can give you better than that.
6. I think you’re amazing, but honestly, I really like someone else and I don’t want to lead you on by hanging out and texting so much.
7. I need to focus on school, work, or my sport. I just don't have the time that texting takes and that needs to be put into a relationship. You should be with someone who can!
8. Long distance relationships are not my thing. I am the type of person who likes to physically spend time with someone and not have dates through a little glass screen!
Even if confronting is the last thing you want to do, DO IT! It is a win-win. Win for them because because they aren't wondering what is wrong with them and bugging you for answers. Win for you, because you gave them the closure they needed and therefore you are able move on in peace!
