So if you are my life twin, you have never been in a relationship before, but most importantly, have been single all through out college. So you’re not #foreveralone, because you have me. Instead of crying in our beds with Nutella, while watching the Nicholas Sparks marathon on ABC Family, let's join together and embrace the best decision we ever made- to be single in college.
1. You have more fun- for sure.
Think about it. If you want to study abroad, go out four nights in a row, or go to the beach for the weekend, you can go. You don’t have to worry about him/her saying “No, you can’t go.” You have the freedom to decide. And you don’t have to worry about if you wake up the next morning in a stranger’s bed, because you are single and ready to mingle, obviously. No cheating for you.
2. You have more time for school.
Although there is the mass amount of fun, partying, and wine nights in college, you really are here for school (sorry to break the news to you). Being single, allows you time to put your studies first and force yourself to spend those countless nights in the lib, because what else do you have to do?
3. You have more time for your friends.
College is by far the fastest four or five years of your entire life. They say you meet your lifelong friends, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and whoever else along this crazy roller coaster ride. Being single allows you to be with your friends all the time. Let's all be honest here, when someone gets into a relationship, they fall off the face of the earth. The honeymoon phase is addicting and their love is their drug. However, that friend misses out on those random nights of fun, the Monday wine nights during "The Bachelor", the lunch and dinner plans, and more importantly, memories with you. I myself see a cycle of girls getting into relationships and making the boy their first priority, but unfortunately forgetting about the girls who got her through everything. Being single, allows you to never forget your friends, and to never have a case of FOMO, because we all know that is by far the worst disease ever.
4. You're always the one friend people can count on.
We all know that point in a relationship when it gets bad and turns into a mess you can’t clean up alone. This turns to a lot of Adele and Taylor Swift throwbacks, but also heart to heart talks with your single BFF. You’re there to guide her back to find where she first started: as a single gal. You give her the strength she needs to walk away and join your #squad once again. You give her the heart wrenching truth that is most likely not what she wants to hear. You make sure she has the most fun she possibly can, instead of crying all the time, which is the best thing she could ever ask for.
5. You are able to learn from the people around you.
This ties in with number 4 above. Being single allows you to go out, have fun, and DO YOU, but also you learn from the heartbreaks around you and discover how you should be treated. You see the good relationships and the boys who allow you to see your BFF and then you see the bad- the cheating, the mean name-calling, and the constant fighting. For example, in my twenty-one years of life, I have helped a ton of friends, sisters, and family members through their heartbreaks. I discovered exactly what I don’t want in a relationship from seeing how miserable they were. No one deserves that what so ever. However, I also learned qualities I do want in a partner and what I need in a partner. So if you know any bearded, tattooed men, with a job, car, dog, and who are gentlemen, HMU.
6. You can experiment and truly find yourself.
Everyone is curious in college. Whether it be in a class setting or social setting, people have all kinds of ideas running through their mind. Being single allows you to experiment with your sexuality and discover who you want your life partner to truly be.
7. You do not have the worry or the stress or a relationship.
I mean the biggest perk of being single is you don’t have to worry about why he/she isn’t texting you back, because you’re probs not texting anyone to begin with. YAS. You don’t have to worry what he/she is doing when you’re apart. No cheating, which leads to no arguing, and no crying. Not to mention, no long distance stress because that is just a whole other level- lawd.
8. You are in control of your own life.
Getting into a relationship causes many girls to put that boy before themselves. You forget about you, along the way. Once that boy is priority, you are more than likely to cater to his every need, whether it be what y’all are doing for meals, going out plans, trips, or even sex. Notice- it was all about him- what about you? You are going to constantly question, “Will this be okay with him/her?” “Wait what would he/she think if I did this?” Okay well, newsflash: the life partner you will have one day, will not control you. They will support you and guide you to becoming a better person. Being single allows you to make your own decisions. The only person you are pleasing is the most important person- you. You have your freedom. You answer to you, and only you. You are your first priority.
9. Bottom line- you can do whatever you want.
Take it from someone who has a VIP Parking Spot in the Friends Zone as well as the Single Life, its okay. I would not go back and change being in a relationship or committing to anyone in college. Most potential options for a relationship are not even mature enough or have decided what they want in a partner- which is just a waste of your time. I make my own schedule and make myself, school, and friends a priority and live life along the way.
Although, it would be super cute to be lavaliered or have a diamond on my finger when I graduate, it's not my plan right now. Being single in college, has made me discover more about myself, what I want, what I don’t want, and has forced me to have the mindset that I refuse to settle. My Jax Teller will ride up on a motorcycle and it’ll be love at first sight, but until then, I’m having an amazing time with my sisters, friends, and family. I'm furthering my career with working a million jobs, networking, and having an internship. I am setting myself up, so when I do meet someone who is mature and worth my time, I am ready.
Look at the queens of single life: Lauren Conrad and Carrie Bradshaw. They casually dated, but did not settle until they were ready and so was their partner. Channel them when you are crying about being #foreveralone, because I can promise you, this is not even a waiting game or you being too picky. You’re being smart, crazy, and getting the full college experience- one that you will never have the chance to recreate.
