When it comes to college most people have a “me, myself and I” focused mind frame, but when it comes to being in a relationship you can’t always be thinking about yourself. Because of this it tends to confuse college students about which type of living will best suit their four years.
There truly is no way of telling or answering, whether or not being in a relationship is a good or bad thing in college. However, there are things on both positive and negative ends of the spectrum that every individual prefers. It all boils down to your personal preference.
Since I am in a relationship and in college, to stay away from my biased opinion I asked students from the college I attend what are the pros of being in a relationship and the pros of being single. This is what I came up with from their opinions.
The pros of having a relationship in college…
1. You have someone that is always willing to listen.
Being in a relationship means you always have that person that is supposed to be there for you and care about your achievements and problems. That’s if you’re in a healthy relationship of course. If your significant other doesn’t seem to care to listen I would start re-thinking your relationship.
2. You don’t have to deal with the stress of dating.
When in college you are nonstop meeting new people, so one thing you won’t have to add to your list of stressors is finding that one person to “like you back” since you are already in a relationship. Also, you don't have to worry about that person turning out to be a terrible person and feeling like you wasted so much of your time getting to know them.
3. You can still have a life of your own.
What confuses a lot of students is that when they think about being in a relationship is that they don’t realize that “me time” is still normal to have.
4. Butterfly moments are still possible while being in a relationship.
A lot of people who are single claim that when you’re in a relationship you don’t typically get that “butterfly feeling” after being with someone for a significant amount of time, however, I think that is quite the opposite. If you’re not receiving those butterfly moments from your significant other then maybe you should rethink your relationship.
5. You can have romantic experiences that you wouldn’t do with your group of friends.
Sometimes there are things that just can’t be done the same with your friends compared to your significant other. When you typically think of a night under the stars you don’t picture yourself with your friends. Not saying that it can’t be done, it just doesn’t hold the same romantic gestures that it does with your boyfriend or girlfriend. 
And the pros of being single in college…
1. You don’t have to worry about the amount of friends you have of the opposite gender.
When you’re in a relationship it may be hard to surround yourself with the opposite gender without suspicion from your significant other. Being single you don’t have to worry about this, and you can be with whoever you want, whenever you want.
2. You don’t have to take someone else’s emotions into consideration.
Whatever you do you don’t have to worry about, if you were in a relationship, what your significant other’s opinion would be. This is truly where the “me, myself, and I” mind frame is different from being in a relationship and being single. This might help lessen the amount of stress that is put on college students knowing that you don’t have to worry about someone else’s feelings from your actions.
3. You don’t have to worry about how you behave in social situations.
I don’t advise putting yourself in risky situations for no reason, but most college students go out and meet people. Not being in a relationship, you don’t have to worry about upsetting your girlfriend or boyfriend because of how much you flirted that night or not.
4. You can focus on yourself and individual goals.
While being single you can just focus on what is going to get you to where you want to be. Not saying that you can’t do this while in a relationship, but sometimes people lose sight of what they truly want because of the sacrifice that sometimes come with relationships.
5. You don’t have to base your decision on somebody else’s.
Do whatever the hell you want basically. You don’t have to limit yourself, and there is no one to limit you. Live the motto and be the motto, “do you boo boo, do you."
Whether you're in a relationship or single, college is a time to grow and mature and truly become who you are. Either it’s your friends who will influence your growth or your significant other. Like I said prior, do you boo boo, do you.
