Life is all about loving and letting go, about meeting new people but losing others and facing the emotions that come with all of this. We have all had a time in our life when our best friend starts dating someone new. It's inevitable. Whether you know the person, like the person, approve of the person or absolutely cannot stand the person, as the best friend you should totally have a say, right? Wrong. And while your best friend is falling in love with him and her new exciting life, you are lost. It's like you are suffering after a really bad break-up—only with your best friend. Here are the eight phases you enter when your best friend starts dating "the one."
1. Pure Excitement
"WHOOOOO! My best friend is tied down! She's the best, she totally deserves him. This is great! This is what we have been waiting our whole lives for. This is actually real! I can't believe this is real! I'm just so excited!"
2. Proud Best Friend Moment
"Wow.. he's like super hot and he's really nice and he's uber outgoing. You totally got the whole package! Ugh, I'm so proud of you. I can't wait to go tell everyone! Sorry... but my best friend is TAKEN."
3. Hopeful
"Oh this is good.... this is really good. She has a boyfriend... and he totally has friends... and I'm totally single....! This is going to be really good. I hope he can hook me up with one of his really awesome friends! I mean... I'm the best friend... he totally has to, right?"
4. Lonliness
"Hey want to hang out on Friday?!?!
No, sorry going to the movies with (Insert boyfriend who stole your best friend)
Saturday?!?!
Oh no sorry I am going to do a super cliche boyfriend thing with my boyfriend
Uhmmm.. Sunday?
Yikes... we go to brunch in the morning and run together in the afternoon.. I'm sorry. Maybe lunch next week or something!
*Thinks to self..... Hmmmm cool I don't really have other friends so this is neat.*
5. Jealousy
"She's been my friend since we were little and she doesn't even know him! I was there for her when her cat died and when she got a B in high school and we even lived together in college! He doesn't even KNOW her and I just got thrown to the curb. It just isn't fair."
6. Anger
"Alright I already admitted I was jealous, but now this is just ridiculous. She doesn't text me anymore. She can't even respond to my texts or calls. She can't make anytime to hang out with me.. and we are still supposed to be best friends? It's called balance."
*Note: Jealousy becomes anger once other friends also feel the same way.*
7. Acceptance
Hopefully you are able to reach this phase, as a lot of people are stuck in anger, which is normal!
Well, she made her decision and I genuinely hope this is the one. If you risk a friendship for a relationship I hope for you, that he is the one. If she wants to be friends, she will come around. Sometimes you just have to go your separate ways.
8. Forever Third Wheel
Let's face it, she'll come around. When she does, you will still be a third wheel so you may as well get used to it! That won't change, unless you find your "one" and your friends start reading this... Help them out and don't make them feel the need to read this!
