In many introvert vs. extrovert discussions, we act like introverts have a social burden to overcome, while extroversion is is viewed as the default personality. However, in a world with a massive population of introverts, it is clear that some traits shared by many introverts are not flaws at all, but simply part of who we are. The following 8 things will hopefully shed some insight on being an introvert, with the aid of adorable animals.
1. We might stay in our rooms for extended periods of time.
Okay, so we've all hear this one before. Introverts tend to require more alone time than others to recharge. But after this recovery period, we're much better prepared to be warm and friendly.
2. We immediately seek out the least crowded part of a room.
Quiet corner of a party? Back of the lecture hall? The empty space against a wall even in a room full of friends? That's perfectly fine. It can help a lot to find a momentary breathing space before diving into the social scene.
3. A conversation may be over sooner than expected.
Maximum Socialization Capacity is a real thing. At least, it feels that way. Not every time is a good time for a deep, fulfilling conversation, so when a talk unexpectedly gets too personal, we might "check out." But don't worry — we'll get back to you, once we can be fully present in order to respond in a better quality way. In short, it's not you, it's me.
4. But sometimes it is you.
Introverts often bend for extroverts. We engage in conversations even when completely drained; we go out to parties we don’t want to attend because someone begged us to go; we reciprocate big, tight hugs from our friends when we just don't want to be touched. If you’re the extrovert in that situation, it’s just as important for you to respect our need for distance.
5. We’re not necessarily shy.
Most of the time, holding back is not a matter of our capability to participate, but a choice. Introverts observe and think quietly. And then, if the time is right, they will share their thoughts. And they’ll probably be very witty.
6. Don’t expect a huge reaction to every piece of exciting news.
People react differently to big news. Some jump for joy. Others give suffocating hugs. Some scream their hearts out. Some do all of the above — only in their heads. Keep that in mind when you tell your introverted friend big news, and know that a genuine smile and congratulations hold just as much meaning as a celebratory scream and leap in the air.
7. On the other hand, we internalize bad news, too.
Having a good poker face doesn't always mean it's all good. Give us time to process the bad news, then offer emotional support when we're ready.
8. We have our loud moments!
Introversion is not a synonym for quietness. When we do something particularly outgoing, there’s no need to stop and stare. Just as normally boisterous people have their quiet moments, introverts can also let go.
