In our lives we build many different kinds of relationships. There are friendships, romantic relationships, family relationships, work relationships, and many others. While these types of relationships vary considerably, what they have in common is the ability to either build us up and contribute positively to our lives, or require copious amounts of energy and unnecessary stress that takes away from our overall happiness. It is important to be aware of the difference between people who are fountains in our lives and people who may be more of a drain.

So what is a drain and what is a fountain? A drain is essentially someone who takes more out of you than they give back. Like with a bank, they make more withdraws then deposits into the relationship. A fountain does the opposite by adding to your well of water per say. This spring, do a little spring cleaning in your relationships along with the house and take some time to determine one, who are the drains and fountains in your life, and two, ask yourself which one are you?

1. Nix the negativity.

Complaining, critiquing, criticizing- it all has to go. No one likes a whiner, know-it-all, or being belittled.

2. Don't pretend you're an honorary Kardashian.

The world doesn’t revolve around you so don’t act like it does. You're life isn't a reality show and people don't have to subscribe to your issues. The relationships in your life are there to support you but don’t abuse this.

3. Leave the leeching behind.

Needy doesn’t look good on anyone. Sometimes people need their space and no means no. That means no texting, calling, showing up unannounced, or inviting yourself. As for money? Take care of your share and stay on top of your debts.

4. Smile.

Smiling is contagious. Even if you’re faking it, smiling has been proven to improve your mood and lessen stress. If you’re happier chances are you’re making the people around you happier as well

5. Be authentic.

Knowing people like you for who you are, is priceless. You can only expect authenticity in the relationships you keep if you offer the same back.

6. Amp up the affirmations and affection.

Everyone needs a reminder every now and then about how great they are or that someone notices their efforts. Be that reminder.

7. Eat dessert first.

Be spontaneous. Let loose. Try something new. Make memories. Do what makes you happy.