1. We don't necessarily want to be the center of attention all the time.
This is a hard one for everyone to understand. I remember being picked on as a child for loving the spotlight - there was no Christmas pageant I didn't have a solo in. But it was never my purpose to be there, it just happened. And once I was there, all I could do was enjoy it, right?
2. We are perfectly fine with doing all of the talking.
And don't read that in the snobbish tone I know you just used. We just don't need any encouragement to talk. If you invite us to coffee, we are not bothered by the fact that you sit there and listen. Just give us sympathetic head nods and a, "Mhm," every once in a while. And if you need/want to talk, we will try our best to listen as well as you do.
3. We don't want to shut you down - like, ever.
The truth is, if we knew you felt left out, we would feel terrible. We know you have thoughts and opinions, but we get so caught up in our own that we forget there are even other people in the room. Again, let us know, and we'll be sure to drag you onstage with us.
4. Just because we friend hop doesn't mean you aren't the best friend.
We have so many friends, followers, and acquaintances that it makes us look like a relationship floozy. We love them all, and we can have long, meaningful conversations with any of them. But you are the best friend. At the end of the day, you are the one we will drop everything for. So don't get too jealous when we talk and laugh with other people - you are the favorite.
5. We don't mean to leave you out.
Remember that time that we dragged you to that party, and you sat down in the corner and watched as we danced and laughed and made a bunch of new friends? It was never our intention to leave you behind, but we physically cannot stand being still when the crowds give us so much energy. Just be patient and know that we will come back to you eventually.
6. Loud does not equal obnoxious.
You can roll your eyes all you want, but the volume button is almost non-existent on us. In high school, everyone knew where I was because of how loud my laugh was. It is a constant struggle to have an "inside voice," so forgive us if we are giving you a headache.
7. We love ourselves a lot, but we love you so much more.
Yes, we never fail to look at ourselves in a mirror. Yes, we talk about ourselves the most. Yes, we post the most selfies on Instagram. But no matter how conceited we may seem, there are massive hearts hidden within. We know it can seem like you are never on the radar, but trust us - you are the greatest friend we could ever have.
